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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 263168" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Thank you all so much! You guys are great!</p><p> </p><p>Midwest - I am going to the library tomorrow to look for that book. psychiatrist gave me an onsite web page to try out some cognitive therapy. I looked at it this weekend and think it is too old for difficult child. It states for 14 and up. But then again, I wasn't in the best of moods to figure it out. I think I will review it again and see if it is something I can work with difficult child on. I think he can benefit, I am not sure if I can administer it. It is too much reading for him to go through on his own. Maybe therapist would be willing to go over it with him? therapist has mentioned it but also thinks difficult child might be too young to really understand and benefit from it.</p><p> </p><p>Star - We are certain the throwing up is from the anxiety. The neurologist states he dehydrates quickly and believes he is not getting enough liquids at night or right away in the morning. I need to get to the eye doctor and order prescription sunglasses for him. We do have ear plugs - just gotta get them out and ready. Unfortunately the reason difficult child doesn't like restrooms is more the separation issue than the cleanliness issue, although I do believe the cleanliness issue is there to some degree. I like all your ideas and will start carrying handi-wipes - funny how bathrooms are so icky but washing hands are out of the question! Now that you mentioned it, Bella (diva puppy) was not with difficult child at all last night. That may be why he couldn't sleep well but he didn't think about that either. Diva dog usually starts out in difficult child's room until Diva gets home but Diva was home most of last night so that changed the routine. hmmmm This is his last year at this school. It will be interesting to see how next year plays out when he is not in the church/school 6 days a week. I'm going to look for that book also.</p><p> </p><p>Flutterby - The proponalol is only to prevent panic attacks and help him get to school. It will be used as a PRN for stressful times more to prevent panic attacks and its effects than to solve anxiety issues. Hmmm, I do wonder why he wasn't given a more anxiety based to get him through to the Flouxetine kicking in. And, now that you mention it, I think you may be right about the increase in anxiety before the medication takes effect.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child and I both had a few eye opening moments today. I have learned to ask him to rate his pain/weirdness on a scale of 1 - 10. He was complaining that his eye was bothering him. I took it as a big deal only to find out that on a scale, it was only a one. I told him he does not have to report or worry or focus on anything with a pain level of 7 or lower. I don't want to hear about it until it is an 8 or 9 or mostly 10. Except for headaches, those we need to medicate at a 1 to prevent migranes then once medications are given I don't want to hear about it. I also told him he would not die unless the pain got higher than a 10 and even then death was probably not going to happen. In other words, stop worrying about every little thing. We will deal with 10's when they happen.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child's eye opener was he couldn't understand why sometimes his head would feel weird but he didn't feel afraid. I told him that was anxiety. He did not have to feel afraid to feel the anxiety - to have the anxiety make the back of his head tingle, ect. It was like a great burden lifted from his shoulders. Almost like he thought he was suppose to be afraid of something so was trying to figure out what the fear was suppose to be, thus the self diagnosing of medical issues he may die from. (if that makes sense).</p><p> </p><p>The neurologist assured him that his symptoms are anxiety (we had an EEG and a MRI last winter). She told him that he must keep his headaches/migranes and anxiety thinking under control. He needs to drink more liquids (100 oz per day). She stated his throwing up in the mornings is an indication that he is not getting enough liquids the night before and the morning of. Dehydration is causing him to throw up. Gaterade, water, sleep, exercise, coping skills from therapist were her recommendations.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child was disappointed that he wasn't given a more tangible diagnosis. At this point anything - even a tumor - seems to be easier to deal with then the anxiety which doesn't seem to have an answer to take away the feelings. This stinks big time!</p><p> </p><p>difficult child also came away feeling better about things. For today anyway, he understands a little better. I think we are just getting tired of the seemingly endless battle. I don't blame him. I know I should whine so much and I try not to. </p><p></p><p>Thank you everyone for helping me through this!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 263168, member: 5096"] Thank you all so much! You guys are great! Midwest - I am going to the library tomorrow to look for that book. psychiatrist gave me an onsite web page to try out some cognitive therapy. I looked at it this weekend and think it is too old for difficult child. It states for 14 and up. But then again, I wasn't in the best of moods to figure it out. I think I will review it again and see if it is something I can work with difficult child on. I think he can benefit, I am not sure if I can administer it. It is too much reading for him to go through on his own. Maybe therapist would be willing to go over it with him? therapist has mentioned it but also thinks difficult child might be too young to really understand and benefit from it. Star - We are certain the throwing up is from the anxiety. The neurologist states he dehydrates quickly and believes he is not getting enough liquids at night or right away in the morning. I need to get to the eye doctor and order prescription sunglasses for him. We do have ear plugs - just gotta get them out and ready. Unfortunately the reason difficult child doesn't like restrooms is more the separation issue than the cleanliness issue, although I do believe the cleanliness issue is there to some degree. I like all your ideas and will start carrying handi-wipes - funny how bathrooms are so icky but washing hands are out of the question! Now that you mentioned it, Bella (diva puppy) was not with difficult child at all last night. That may be why he couldn't sleep well but he didn't think about that either. Diva dog usually starts out in difficult child's room until Diva gets home but Diva was home most of last night so that changed the routine. hmmmm This is his last year at this school. It will be interesting to see how next year plays out when he is not in the church/school 6 days a week. I'm going to look for that book also. Flutterby - The proponalol is only to prevent panic attacks and help him get to school. It will be used as a PRN for stressful times more to prevent panic attacks and its effects than to solve anxiety issues. Hmmm, I do wonder why he wasn't given a more anxiety based to get him through to the Flouxetine kicking in. And, now that you mention it, I think you may be right about the increase in anxiety before the medication takes effect. difficult child and I both had a few eye opening moments today. I have learned to ask him to rate his pain/weirdness on a scale of 1 - 10. He was complaining that his eye was bothering him. I took it as a big deal only to find out that on a scale, it was only a one. I told him he does not have to report or worry or focus on anything with a pain level of 7 or lower. I don't want to hear about it until it is an 8 or 9 or mostly 10. Except for headaches, those we need to medicate at a 1 to prevent migranes then once medications are given I don't want to hear about it. I also told him he would not die unless the pain got higher than a 10 and even then death was probably not going to happen. In other words, stop worrying about every little thing. We will deal with 10's when they happen. difficult child's eye opener was he couldn't understand why sometimes his head would feel weird but he didn't feel afraid. I told him that was anxiety. He did not have to feel afraid to feel the anxiety - to have the anxiety make the back of his head tingle, ect. It was like a great burden lifted from his shoulders. Almost like he thought he was suppose to be afraid of something so was trying to figure out what the fear was suppose to be, thus the self diagnosing of medical issues he may die from. (if that makes sense). The neurologist assured him that his symptoms are anxiety (we had an EEG and a MRI last winter). She told him that he must keep his headaches/migranes and anxiety thinking under control. He needs to drink more liquids (100 oz per day). She stated his throwing up in the mornings is an indication that he is not getting enough liquids the night before and the morning of. Dehydration is causing him to throw up. Gaterade, water, sleep, exercise, coping skills from therapist were her recommendations. difficult child was disappointed that he wasn't given a more tangible diagnosis. At this point anything - even a tumor - seems to be easier to deal with then the anxiety which doesn't seem to have an answer to take away the feelings. This stinks big time! difficult child also came away feeling better about things. For today anyway, he understands a little better. I think we are just getting tired of the seemingly endless battle. I don't blame him. I know I should whine so much and I try not to. Thank you everyone for helping me through this! [/QUOTE]
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