Hello all,
I am married with 2 boys. Boy One is 17 and is ready to head off to college. He is just about what every parent would wish for, well behaved, honor roll, respectful, trustworthy, etc. Boy Two is 15 and just the opposite. He was diagnosed in elementary school with ADHD. He has always been a difficult child. Now he is getting worse. He's a freshman in high school and has been into just about everything. We have been to school 3 or 4 times already this year to deal with him. Thus far it's been fighting and stealing. He denies everything and takes no blame or responsibilty for anything. He steals money from us and Boy One. He uses it to buy pot, which he smokes pretty regularly. He has the ability to easily get addicted to something. He has seen the inside of a police station at least twice.
Last night we had a major incident. Boy One accuses Two of stealing money out of his car (which I'm sure he did). Of course he denies it. My wife spent the next few hours trying to reason with him and figure things out(in other words, just talking a lot, while getting cursed at a lot). It gets to the point where he decides to just leave and go over to a friends house. My wife comes up with the idea of taking him to his grandmothers house for a few days. By the end of the 40 minute car ride he decides he's not going to stay at grandma's and my wife realizes it's not the best idea. So we try to reason with him again. Bad idea, his ability to talk reasonably has been long gone. It ends with us parked in a gas station parking lot, me considering walking away from everything. We somehow made it back home alive.
You would think a nights sleep he would be a little cooler, but no. I heard him on the phone talking to one of his "friends". He was asking him to go snowboarding. "I got to check with my rents" he says. Meaning I'm going to ask them and if they say no I'm going to be a total @%@$ all day. We haven't talked to him yet. I don't plan on it. He walked into the bathroom and I heard him mumble "You f'n bit@h". He hasn't even seen either one of us so far this morning.
I want to send him away. He is on a bad path right now and will probably end up in jail or dead if he doesn't change. I don't know what to do. We don't have anyone that can help. I'm looking for advice. We have tried a couple of different psychologists with no success.
Anyone tried boarding schools? Wilderness camps? Anything?
Thanks
I am married with 2 boys. Boy One is 17 and is ready to head off to college. He is just about what every parent would wish for, well behaved, honor roll, respectful, trustworthy, etc. Boy Two is 15 and just the opposite. He was diagnosed in elementary school with ADHD. He has always been a difficult child. Now he is getting worse. He's a freshman in high school and has been into just about everything. We have been to school 3 or 4 times already this year to deal with him. Thus far it's been fighting and stealing. He denies everything and takes no blame or responsibilty for anything. He steals money from us and Boy One. He uses it to buy pot, which he smokes pretty regularly. He has the ability to easily get addicted to something. He has seen the inside of a police station at least twice.
Last night we had a major incident. Boy One accuses Two of stealing money out of his car (which I'm sure he did). Of course he denies it. My wife spent the next few hours trying to reason with him and figure things out(in other words, just talking a lot, while getting cursed at a lot). It gets to the point where he decides to just leave and go over to a friends house. My wife comes up with the idea of taking him to his grandmothers house for a few days. By the end of the 40 minute car ride he decides he's not going to stay at grandma's and my wife realizes it's not the best idea. So we try to reason with him again. Bad idea, his ability to talk reasonably has been long gone. It ends with us parked in a gas station parking lot, me considering walking away from everything. We somehow made it back home alive.
You would think a nights sleep he would be a little cooler, but no. I heard him on the phone talking to one of his "friends". He was asking him to go snowboarding. "I got to check with my rents" he says. Meaning I'm going to ask them and if they say no I'm going to be a total @%@$ all day. We haven't talked to him yet. I don't plan on it. He walked into the bathroom and I heard him mumble "You f'n bit@h". He hasn't even seen either one of us so far this morning.
I want to send him away. He is on a bad path right now and will probably end up in jail or dead if he doesn't change. I don't know what to do. We don't have anyone that can help. I'm looking for advice. We have tried a couple of different psychologists with no success.
Anyone tried boarding schools? Wilderness camps? Anything?
Thanks