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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 225065"><p>klmno, you are so right. I really never looked at it like that before. And truthfully, if I were to go out and drag her home I would only be prolonging what would inevitably (spelling?) happen in 2 months when she turns 18. Whats really sad is that my daughter really does like this ghetto, gansta lifestyle. I always thought that was just an act but maybe that is who she really is. Even when she is home she has that gangsta face on, she speaks to us as if we were her fellow gang members. It's just so hard to swallow as we are so NOT a ghetto family. It's as if someone else raised her, somewhere in the ghetto. She acts as if we live in an areas where she has to behave that way to survive and WE SO DON'T!!!! We aren't rich, we do not live in a big house in the hills but we live in a decent area where she is safe. She is bi-racial, her dad is African American and I am white but she hates the white side to her. She tells people she is spanish and black, she won't admit to being white. I can't tell you how many times she has told me she hates white people and wishes she had a black mother. Her black side of the family pays no attention to her whatsoever. She has not spoken to her father in over a year. Her therapist said that is so unusual, typically if a child is bi-racial she would normally identify more with the side of the family that has been there for her. She said that usually a child will shun the race of the parent who is not in her life. Total opposite in my case. And I don't take that personally, I know she is just trying to find herself. I am fine with her identifying with whatever race she is comfortable with. I just wish she would make better choices with regards to the kind of people she associates with, no matter the race. Why is it that teenagers in general love the seedy parts of life, especially difficult children??? </p><p></p><p>Anyway klmno, thank you for opening my eyes to look at this situation from a different perspective. You are so right, if I went out to look for her and tried once again to "fix" her life I would only be enabling her to keep on messing it up as she would keep on expecting me to be her "savior". I pray she is caught soon. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 225065"] klmno, you are so right. I really never looked at it like that before. And truthfully, if I were to go out and drag her home I would only be prolonging what would inevitably (spelling?) happen in 2 months when she turns 18. Whats really sad is that my daughter really does like this ghetto, gansta lifestyle. I always thought that was just an act but maybe that is who she really is. Even when she is home she has that gangsta face on, she speaks to us as if we were her fellow gang members. It's just so hard to swallow as we are so NOT a ghetto family. It's as if someone else raised her, somewhere in the ghetto. She acts as if we live in an areas where she has to behave that way to survive and WE SO DON'T!!!! We aren't rich, we do not live in a big house in the hills but we live in a decent area where she is safe. She is bi-racial, her dad is African American and I am white but she hates the white side to her. She tells people she is spanish and black, she won't admit to being white. I can't tell you how many times she has told me she hates white people and wishes she had a black mother. Her black side of the family pays no attention to her whatsoever. She has not spoken to her father in over a year. Her therapist said that is so unusual, typically if a child is bi-racial she would normally identify more with the side of the family that has been there for her. She said that usually a child will shun the race of the parent who is not in her life. Total opposite in my case. And I don't take that personally, I know she is just trying to find herself. I am fine with her identifying with whatever race she is comfortable with. I just wish she would make better choices with regards to the kind of people she associates with, no matter the race. Why is it that teenagers in general love the seedy parts of life, especially difficult children??? Anyway klmno, thank you for opening my eyes to look at this situation from a different perspective. You are so right, if I went out to look for her and tried once again to "fix" her life I would only be enabling her to keep on messing it up as she would keep on expecting me to be her "savior". I pray she is caught soon. Thanks again. :) [/QUOTE]
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