L is a part of our bunco group. It's at my house this coming Thursday. I sent out invites last Wednesday by evite. Most everyone responded, except for L and her friend (whom I could see had not even looked at the evite) and another lady who always waits until the last moment. Friday I send L an e-mail on Friday asking if she was coming. No reply. I sent her a PM on Facebook, too. Today was my "I'm calling subs tomorrow if you don't answer me" phone call day. I called L and her friend and the other lady and left messages. L called back and said "What do you want?" I told her I needed to know if she was coming, I am arranging for subs tomorrow. (FWIW, you have to have 12 for bunco. It can't be 13, it can be 11, but someone loses a prize that way, so you need to know you have 12 in advance.) L says, "Well, I don't know if I can come, because boyfriend is going fishing with his friends on Wednesday, and if then if he spends time with me on Thursday that's his only day off that we can spend time together." This is how she tells me that they are together. I didn't even ask for details. I don't know for sure where she is living, although I did call her father to talk to him and of course he didn't call me back. Anyway, then she asks if she should ask boyfriend if he will sub with her and then they can be together here. I told her no, I would be calling subs tomorrow and needed to know whether she was coming. She twisted it around a few times, wanting to know if I knew who I would be asking, I told her I had it under control and would call someone else if she wouldn't let me know either way by tomorrow, and if there was an open space for her later on, she could join us. Period. For crying out loud, his first choice is to go fishing with his friends on his day off. He's not planning anything with you in advance. Figure it out! She pm'd me about an hour later and said "I guess I'm going to make it on Thursday." OK then. I feel like I should anticipate a hissy fit in the near future. I didn't make a big fuss and ask her how she was or tell her what to do. I'm just biding my time, waiting for a chance to talk to her about my thoughts when she doesn't have her defenses all up. I might as well be talking to the wind. I'm frustrated. I would like to say something, but I know that she is waiting for me to say something so that she can pick a fight with me. I'm not going to play it that way, not with this conversation. She can pick a fight, but she's really going to have to work at it, because I'm not stepping into the punch, if you will pardon the metaphor. Harumph. I've been grinding my teeth all night, and I've got a headache. But I have better things to do tomorrow.