Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I had to say it...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688729" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Lil. I can't believe it escalated so quickly. I left to do my CPR class and came back to this???</p><p>Oh no.</p><p>I will say what I think.</p><p></p><p>I think he cannot deal much with ambiguity in his life right now. No shades of gray for him. There was the delay in the apartment. Consequently there was the lack of clarity about how long he could stay with you guys (the give an inch aspect....) There was the fact that there was no immediate peril in front of him *thus, low motivation. There was the uncertainty over roommates. The job, he was ambivalent about.</p><p></p><p>Not one of these things alone justifies a response like he had.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I think the arrest was a good thing, and the fact that Jabber called the cops, too.</p><p></p><p>I think you and Jabber have every reason to tighten up on him a great deal, and to not tolerate anything at all.</p><p></p><p>These outbursts require a response either, one insisting he get evaluated by a psychiatrist, and/or anger management classes, or leave the house.</p><p>That is my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Either these emotional reactions are beyond his control or current capacity to handle in a mature fashion and he needs medication, training or psychotherapy to achieve that control, or he need not be living in your space should he choose to not avail himself of such.</p><p></p><p>Adults control their emotional reactions. Or they learn to. Or they leave where they are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688729, member: 18958"] Lil. I can't believe it escalated so quickly. I left to do my CPR class and came back to this??? Oh no. I will say what I think. I think he cannot deal much with ambiguity in his life right now. No shades of gray for him. There was the delay in the apartment. Consequently there was the lack of clarity about how long he could stay with you guys (the give an inch aspect....) There was the fact that there was no immediate peril in front of him *thus, low motivation. There was the uncertainty over roommates. The job, he was ambivalent about. Not one of these things alone justifies a response like he had. Personally, I think the arrest was a good thing, and the fact that Jabber called the cops, too. I think you and Jabber have every reason to tighten up on him a great deal, and to not tolerate anything at all. These outbursts require a response either, one insisting he get evaluated by a psychiatrist, and/or anger management classes, or leave the house. That is my opinion. Either these emotional reactions are beyond his control or current capacity to handle in a mature fashion and he needs medication, training or psychotherapy to achieve that control, or he need not be living in your space should he choose to not avail himself of such. Adults control their emotional reactions. Or they learn to. Or they leave where they are. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
I had to say it...
Top