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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 688752" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Lil. This reply is for tomorrow. If you have not yet gone to bed, go.I disagree here.</p><p></p><p>To me this reasoning is like the parents whosecollege kids are using drugs and alcohol and decide to leave them in place, because the college is so important. There is a hierarchy of importance and <em>health and safety</em> are number 1. College, jobs are way less important, and whether our kids hate us, not important at all.</p><p>Wishing does no good. Make it a condition of any help from you. Now. Your son has way too much power, I think.</p><p>These outbursts seem to me to go on too long. Immediately call 911. He needs not to be in your house until he learns to control himself. The responsibility is his, not yours. You cannot solve it for him. The only power you have here is to insist he seek psychiatric help/anger management counseling, and/or to make him leave your home. He is an adult.</p><p>The problem is his to deal with and solve. Lil. I do not want to be harsh, but by letting him come back and deciding against the 5150 evaluation is to empower this behavior.</p><p>Lil. Jabber's work status is at risk here. These episodes are by definition out of control. They can escalate. Nobody has the kind of self-control to completely rule out something emergent happening. Jabber has to take responsibility for both sides, because your son just inflames the situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 688752, member: 18958"] Lil. This reply is for tomorrow. If you have not yet gone to bed, go.I disagree here. To me this reasoning is like the parents whosecollege kids are using drugs and alcohol and decide to leave them in place, because the college is so important. There is a hierarchy of importance and [I]health and safety[/I] are number 1. College, jobs are way less important, and whether our kids hate us, not important at all. Wishing does no good. Make it a condition of any help from you. Now. Your son has way too much power, I think. These outbursts seem to me to go on too long. Immediately call 911. He needs not to be in your house until he learns to control himself. The responsibility is his, not yours. You cannot solve it for him. The only power you have here is to insist he seek psychiatric help/anger management counseling, and/or to make him leave your home. He is an adult. The problem is his to deal with and solve. Lil. I do not want to be harsh, but by letting him come back and deciding against the 5150 evaluation is to empower this behavior. Lil. Jabber's work status is at risk here. These episodes are by definition out of control. They can escalate. Nobody has the kind of self-control to completely rule out something emergent happening. Jabber has to take responsibility for both sides, because your son just inflames the situation. [/QUOTE]
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