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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 688790" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Oh he's not allowed to do it anymore. That was a stipulation to him coming home. As for out, well, I told him I was dropping him off wherever he wanted - he has friends that live near there. Were they going in? Probably, though it was closed when I dropped him off, so I didn't know one way or the other. I was quite sure he'd have a drink or two somewhere, but whether at a bar or a friends I didn't know. Regardless, I told him I would no longer be taking him anywhere to buy alcohol, if for no other reason than I wouldn't help him spend his money foolishly. </p><p></p><p>As for him getting drunk last night and it being a bad sign - well duh. Of course it is. Of course he's high risk. Have I not lectured and lectured and lectured about it? Have I not dealt with that issue every freaking day since he was old enough to have an interest in alcohol? Has he not been warned and cautioned and flat out told? But he's going to do what he's going to do and I certainly can't say I've never gone out and blown off steam after an incredibly shitty day. </p><p></p><p>Of course there's substances involved in all this. He apparently had a little pipe on him when the cops arrested him, but they didn't charge him and called it a "tobacco" pipe, given his being arrested already and how upset and freaked out he was. (I found that out last night from him.) </p><p></p><p>Do you know how hard it was to even write that? How I'm SURE everyone is just going to say, "See - drugs! Throw him out! He's done it again! You're enabling him! You're doing the wrong thing! This is what you should do!" But I can't do anything right now. I can't even think. I can't even type anymore. I just want to scream and run away myself and NEVER COME BACK HOME! </p><p></p><p> It is what it is. What's done is done. The fact is, he's probably going to jail. He'll probably lose his job and apartment and be homeless again. His fault? Sure. That doesn't make me any happier about it. And at this point, though I appreciate everyone's support and suggestions and positions, I'm just tired of dealing with this and am starting to feel defensive and I'm just done for now. Maybe Jabber will weigh in, I don't have anything else to say about it for now though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 688790, member: 17309"] Oh he's not allowed to do it anymore. That was a stipulation to him coming home. As for out, well, I told him I was dropping him off wherever he wanted - he has friends that live near there. Were they going in? Probably, though it was closed when I dropped him off, so I didn't know one way or the other. I was quite sure he'd have a drink or two somewhere, but whether at a bar or a friends I didn't know. Regardless, I told him I would no longer be taking him anywhere to buy alcohol, if for no other reason than I wouldn't help him spend his money foolishly. As for him getting drunk last night and it being a bad sign - well duh. Of course it is. Of course he's high risk. Have I not lectured and lectured and lectured about it? Have I not dealt with that issue every freaking day since he was old enough to have an interest in alcohol? Has he not been warned and cautioned and flat out told? But he's going to do what he's going to do and I certainly can't say I've never gone out and blown off steam after an incredibly shitty day. Of course there's substances involved in all this. He apparently had a little pipe on him when the cops arrested him, but they didn't charge him and called it a "tobacco" pipe, given his being arrested already and how upset and freaked out he was. (I found that out last night from him.) Do you know how hard it was to even write that? How I'm SURE everyone is just going to say, "See - drugs! Throw him out! He's done it again! You're enabling him! You're doing the wrong thing! This is what you should do!" But I can't do anything right now. I can't even think. I can't even type anymore. I just want to scream and run away myself and NEVER COME BACK HOME! It is what it is. What's done is done. The fact is, he's probably going to jail. He'll probably lose his job and apartment and be homeless again. His fault? Sure. That doesn't make me any happier about it. And at this point, though I appreciate everyone's support and suggestions and positions, I'm just tired of dealing with this and am starting to feel defensive and I'm just done for now. Maybe Jabber will weigh in, I don't have anything else to say about it for now though. [/QUOTE]
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