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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 308467" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Heather</p><p> </p><p>I came to the point with Nichole that I had to simply not care about her feelings for the most part. I'd had enough of her at that point that I wasn't walking on those d*mn eggshells anymore.</p><p> </p><p>I began to treat her like I would any other person who treated me poorly. It was not pretty for a long time around here. Cuz I wasn't supposed to have feelings ya know.......just her........ Yeah. I think what I hated most was one second she'd be treating me like so much dirt.....the next she'd be asking me to do something. Uh, no dear. You want me to do for you, you treat me with respect. Don't have to like me or even love me......but you do have to treat me with respect. Sure you have a right to how you feel about things, but that doesn't mean I want or have to listen to it.</p><p> </p><p>That last bit got thru to her like nothing else did, especially when the rest of the family jumped on board.</p><p> </p><p>OMG it's sooooo nice she no longer does that. But at difficult child's age and the Borderline (BPD)........*shudder* you just can't win, so I stopped trying. It wasn't my job to be her friend. My hope was that someday down the road I would be.</p><p> </p><p>Nichole and I had a few nasty run ins at that time. Me telling her exactly like it was, her not wanting to hear it..........Soooooo glad that's behind us.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 308467, member: 84"] Heather I came to the point with Nichole that I had to simply not care about her feelings for the most part. I'd had enough of her at that point that I wasn't walking on those d*mn eggshells anymore. I began to treat her like I would any other person who treated me poorly. It was not pretty for a long time around here. Cuz I wasn't supposed to have feelings ya know.......just her........ Yeah. I think what I hated most was one second she'd be treating me like so much dirt.....the next she'd be asking me to do something. Uh, no dear. You want me to do for you, you treat me with respect. Don't have to like me or even love me......but you do have to treat me with respect. Sure you have a right to how you feel about things, but that doesn't mean I want or have to listen to it. That last bit got thru to her like nothing else did, especially when the rest of the family jumped on board. OMG it's sooooo nice she no longer does that. But at difficult child's age and the Borderline (BPD)........*shudder* you just can't win, so I stopped trying. It wasn't my job to be her friend. My hope was that someday down the road I would be. Nichole and I had a few nasty run ins at that time. Me telling her exactly like it was, her not wanting to hear it..........Soooooo glad that's behind us. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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