Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I hate Borderline (BPD)
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 308512" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I understand your feelings, all too well. It's not easy being the "bad guy" all the time. Nothing is ever good enough. Do ten nice things for your difficult child, but say no to another, and that's the one they harp on, forever. "You never [insert the thing they are angry about at that particular moment] for me/with me." Me, me, me. Yup. We don't exist, you see, except to serve THEM <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Never.. pfft I hear that darn word ALL the time with respect to things I "never" do for my Youngest. It wears you down, I know.</p><p></p><p>I don't have good answers except to say, just keep practicing detachment. Journal, vent. Practice self-affirmation .. you ARE a good mom, you have countless people who will back you up on that.. even if your difficult child won't/can't. Keep in touch with those postiive people. Go out and have a glass of wine with them somewhere away from your difficult child. Do something for yourself. Practice some pat answers for your difficult child when the "you nevers" come up. One of my favorites is one someone here shared awhile back, and that is, "wow, if I messed up uyour life so badly, it's a good thing you're in therapy!" Oooh Youngest hates that one ;-)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 308512, member: 1157"] I understand your feelings, all too well. It's not easy being the "bad guy" all the time. Nothing is ever good enough. Do ten nice things for your difficult child, but say no to another, and that's the one they harp on, forever. "You never [insert the thing they are angry about at that particular moment] for me/with me." Me, me, me. Yup. We don't exist, you see, except to serve THEM :) Never.. pfft I hear that darn word ALL the time with respect to things I "never" do for my Youngest. It wears you down, I know. I don't have good answers except to say, just keep practicing detachment. Journal, vent. Practice self-affirmation .. you ARE a good mom, you have countless people who will back you up on that.. even if your difficult child won't/can't. Keep in touch with those postiive people. Go out and have a glass of wine with them somewhere away from your difficult child. Do something for yourself. Practice some pat answers for your difficult child when the "you nevers" come up. One of my favorites is one someone here shared awhile back, and that is, "wow, if I messed up uyour life so badly, it's a good thing you're in therapy!" Oooh Youngest hates that one ;-) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I hate Borderline (BPD)
Top