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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 223704" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Rotsne, I like the sound of rubberpads in the door frame. Another thought, MWM - installing automatic door closers. They close slowly, but surely. Then there can be no arguments. And if you need to, you CAN prop them open.</p><p></p><p>MWM, try using "Explosive Child" methods on her. I do agree, it sounds like hormones running rampant. </p><p></p><p>Girls ARE different to boys, in so many ways. I was taught otherwise when I did teacher training; we were taught that any differences between girls and boys are what we imprint on our children. I now strongly disagree with this. I did my utmost to not imprint any gender stereotyping, so did my sisters, and I saw loads of evidence of girls "finding their own level" and femininity, at a very young age. And later at school and long before they reach puberty, the social dramas begin. The cattiness N is describing, MWM, I saw in difficult child 3's female classmates from age 8. I saw the same thing in easy child's classmates from even younger.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if changing schools for this reason is a good idea, though. It would be running away from the problems, and if there is any part of the problem that she has to own, then she will be rewarded for denial and avoidance, instead of learning to dig in and deal with it. </p><p></p><p>It is the difference between a pacifist and a peacemaker. A pacifist can get away with avoiding conflict; a peacemaker ends it. She needs to learn hhow to deal with conflict in her own way.</p><p></p><p>However, I also had to change schools at only a little older than this. I had gone from a school of all girls, where this level of cattiness was extreme. I went to a larger co-ed school which had a poorer standard, but I was happier there and the cattiness was well controlled. The co-ed school had a more "normal" atmosphere which played a big part of it. I changed schools because we moved away from the city. </p><p></p><p>We described easy child as having PMT form about age 8. Very P, was how we described it.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes you just have to hold on to your sense of humour and not play to her drama.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 223704, member: 1991"] Rotsne, I like the sound of rubberpads in the door frame. Another thought, MWM - installing automatic door closers. They close slowly, but surely. Then there can be no arguments. And if you need to, you CAN prop them open. MWM, try using "Explosive Child" methods on her. I do agree, it sounds like hormones running rampant. Girls ARE different to boys, in so many ways. I was taught otherwise when I did teacher training; we were taught that any differences between girls and boys are what we imprint on our children. I now strongly disagree with this. I did my utmost to not imprint any gender stereotyping, so did my sisters, and I saw loads of evidence of girls "finding their own level" and femininity, at a very young age. And later at school and long before they reach puberty, the social dramas begin. The cattiness N is describing, MWM, I saw in difficult child 3's female classmates from age 8. I saw the same thing in easy child's classmates from even younger. I don't know if changing schools for this reason is a good idea, though. It would be running away from the problems, and if there is any part of the problem that she has to own, then she will be rewarded for denial and avoidance, instead of learning to dig in and deal with it. It is the difference between a pacifist and a peacemaker. A pacifist can get away with avoiding conflict; a peacemaker ends it. She needs to learn hhow to deal with conflict in her own way. However, I also had to change schools at only a little older than this. I had gone from a school of all girls, where this level of cattiness was extreme. I went to a larger co-ed school which had a poorer standard, but I was happier there and the cattiness was well controlled. The co-ed school had a more "normal" atmosphere which played a big part of it. I changed schools because we moved away from the city. We described easy child as having PMT form about age 8. Very P, was how we described it. Sometimes you just have to hold on to your sense of humour and not play to her drama. Marg [/QUOTE]
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