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<blockquote data-quote="TPaul" data-source="post: 312865" data-attributes="member: 8055"><p><span style="color: darkred"><strong>Dear lovemyDuke,</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: darkred"><strong>Glad you found the board, and know that there are many that do competely understand your situation. Many have had very similiar experiences.</strong></span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">I along with others on the board, know what it is like to lose a child. The hole it leaves within us, never goes away, but we have to let that place heal as time goes on.</span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">You can not ever blame yourself for someone elses behaviour or what they do to themselves. No, but if's, or what if's allowed. We do not control anyone other than ourselves. Thier decisions are thiers alone.</span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">Your not a bad person for needing to have someone else around, even if it was just in a physical sense, while you coped with your loss. That is a natural response that many of us have. Its is a safety mechanism to keep ourselves from sliding down into a dark pit. </span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">The time has come however, that you do not need the others in this relationship, to help you survive. Your self awareness of what has happened and why from the past shows that you have gained the strength to now step out of the situation that you are currently in. Your much stronger than you probably give yourself credit for. You have survived many a fast ball that life has thrown you way.</span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">It is time to step into a new chapter of your life. Since finances are not a problem, you have no reason not to find a new place to live. If you have to just take any old thing, for a first step to remove yourself from the other house, just go do it. Tommorrow, if not sooner, <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">Not sure if you have a lot of your own things in your current place you are living. If you do take as much as you can load into a vehicle or rent a small moving van. Take off a day from work if needed, to remove the items while no one else is home. If you can' t take everything, take the most important items and leave other things, that can be replaced later. Do not move while either on of them is there. If you have to make do in another place with only the bare essentials, don't sweat it. It will be like beginning again and adding the things you really like, that make you smile.</span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!! GO GIRL AND THRIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!</span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">We are here for you any time of the day,</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color: #8b0000">T. Paul</span></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TPaul, post: 312865, member: 8055"] [COLOR=darkred][B]Dear lovemyDuke,[/B][/COLOR] [COLOR=darkred][B]Glad you found the board, and know that there are many that do competely understand your situation. Many have had very similiar experiences.[/B][/COLOR] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]I along with others on the board, know what it is like to lose a child. The hole it leaves within us, never goes away, but we have to let that place heal as time goes on.[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]You can not ever blame yourself for someone elses behaviour or what they do to themselves. No, but if's, or what if's allowed. We do not control anyone other than ourselves. Thier decisions are thiers alone.[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]Your not a bad person for needing to have someone else around, even if it was just in a physical sense, while you coped with your loss. That is a natural response that many of us have. Its is a safety mechanism to keep ourselves from sliding down into a dark pit. [/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]The time has come however, that you do not need the others in this relationship, to help you survive. Your self awareness of what has happened and why from the past shows that you have gained the strength to now step out of the situation that you are currently in. Your much stronger than you probably give yourself credit for. You have survived many a fast ball that life has thrown you way.[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]It is time to step into a new chapter of your life. Since finances are not a problem, you have no reason not to find a new place to live. If you have to just take any old thing, for a first step to remove yourself from the other house, just go do it. Tommorrow, if not sooner, :)[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]Not sure if you have a lot of your own things in your current place you are living. If you do take as much as you can load into a vehicle or rent a small moving van. Take off a day from work if needed, to remove the items while no one else is home. If you can' t take everything, take the most important items and leave other things, that can be replaced later. Do not move while either on of them is there. If you have to make do in another place with only the bare essentials, don't sweat it. It will be like beginning again and adding the things you really like, that make you smile.[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!! GO GIRL AND THRIVE!!!!!!!!!!!![/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]We are here for you any time of the day,[/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR=#8b0000]T. Paul[/COLOR][/B] [/QUOTE]
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