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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 368350" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>You know, I read this last night and wasn't sure how to respond. On one hand, I don't like hitting, on the other hand, in some situations that is the last tool in the box. </p><p> </p><p>husband was a difficult child. He was born to older parents who many people mistakenly thought were his grandparents. His Dad had a lot of health issues and when husband was a teen of about 15(and six foot) he got into a big argument with his Dad and decided to physically threaten him by putting up his fist like he was going to punch him. husband's dad was much smaller than husband at about 5'7", but oh boy, husband threatened the wrong dude. father in law whipped off his belt, grabbed a hold of husband's shirt collar, and told him, "Come on, boy, show me what ya got!" husband was shocked and afraid and backed down real quick. He never did that again. Though, he still was a difficult child (he really put his parents through A LOT). </p><p> </p><p>Myself, as a child that got beaten a lot over trivial issues, I vowed that I would never raise a hand to my child. </p><p> </p><p>Um, yeah. </p><p> </p><p>I have called the police on Son when he has attacked me in the past. The cop flat out told him that if I were "beat the you-know-what" out of him they wouldn't do anything because he deserved it. Son has threatened me with the police so many times. Mostly because I'm an "abuser". Of course, there's the infamous trip he took down the police station to have me arrested because I took his cell phone and then having them show up at my door because I think the cop just HAD to talk to me as if to see what kind of mother had a kid like this(of course, they told Son that they couldn't arrest me since the phone is MINE). </p><p> </p><p>So, the other day, Son says, "I want my cell phone back!" and threatens me with the police once again. I know he senses my mortification every time the police become involved with our family; I just want to live a quiet unassuming life. He knows that I hate that the neighbors once again have to see a police car in front of my house. In the nine years I have lived in this neighborhood, I am the ONLY one out of my neighbors that have had the police at my house countless times (though Son is not to blame for all of them;Daughter caused her share of grief back in the day.). Anyway, when he says that to me, it was the straw, THE STRAW as in last. He was sitting on my bed and I leaped out of my chair and got nose to nose so that he fell back wards and with a low snarl I said, "You EVER threaten, let alone call, the police on me again you better be ready to call an ambulance too because you're gonna need it; got it, Pal??"</p><p> </p><p>He didn't say a word. I asked him if he "got it" and in a quiet voice he said, "Got it". </p><p> </p><p>You know, even with all the physical attacks over the years I have had to endure with my difficult children, they have NEVER cursed at me or called me names. They don't even curse in front of me and I know they both swear like sailors. Son got suspended the last two days of school for screaming them at another student. He will tell me that he WANTS to curse, but doesn't. I don't like cursing for the most part and I really detest it as part of everyday vernacular. I tell them they can think it all they want, but they better not say it. I think they know I will EXPLODE if they were to ever call me a curse word; let alone what their Dad would do to them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 368350, member: 831"] You know, I read this last night and wasn't sure how to respond. On one hand, I don't like hitting, on the other hand, in some situations that is the last tool in the box. husband was a difficult child. He was born to older parents who many people mistakenly thought were his grandparents. His Dad had a lot of health issues and when husband was a teen of about 15(and six foot) he got into a big argument with his Dad and decided to physically threaten him by putting up his fist like he was going to punch him. husband's dad was much smaller than husband at about 5'7", but oh boy, husband threatened the wrong dude. father in law whipped off his belt, grabbed a hold of husband's shirt collar, and told him, "Come on, boy, show me what ya got!" husband was shocked and afraid and backed down real quick. He never did that again. Though, he still was a difficult child (he really put his parents through A LOT). Myself, as a child that got beaten a lot over trivial issues, I vowed that I would never raise a hand to my child. Um, yeah. I have called the police on Son when he has attacked me in the past. The cop flat out told him that if I were "beat the you-know-what" out of him they wouldn't do anything because he deserved it. Son has threatened me with the police so many times. Mostly because I'm an "abuser". Of course, there's the infamous trip he took down the police station to have me arrested because I took his cell phone and then having them show up at my door because I think the cop just HAD to talk to me as if to see what kind of mother had a kid like this(of course, they told Son that they couldn't arrest me since the phone is MINE). So, the other day, Son says, "I want my cell phone back!" and threatens me with the police once again. I know he senses my mortification every time the police become involved with our family; I just want to live a quiet unassuming life. He knows that I hate that the neighbors once again have to see a police car in front of my house. In the nine years I have lived in this neighborhood, I am the ONLY one out of my neighbors that have had the police at my house countless times (though Son is not to blame for all of them;Daughter caused her share of grief back in the day.). Anyway, when he says that to me, it was the straw, THE STRAW as in last. He was sitting on my bed and I leaped out of my chair and got nose to nose so that he fell back wards and with a low snarl I said, "You EVER threaten, let alone call, the police on me again you better be ready to call an ambulance too because you're gonna need it; got it, Pal??" He didn't say a word. I asked him if he "got it" and in a quiet voice he said, "Got it". You know, even with all the physical attacks over the years I have had to endure with my difficult children, they have NEVER cursed at me or called me names. They don't even curse in front of me and I know they both swear like sailors. Son got suspended the last two days of school for screaming them at another student. He will tell me that he WANTS to curse, but doesn't. I don't like cursing for the most part and I really detest it as part of everyday vernacular. I tell them they can think it all they want, but they better not say it. I think they know I will EXPLODE if they were to ever call me a curse word; let alone what their Dad would do to them. [/QUOTE]
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