SuZir
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Middle of all difficult child heartbreak my easy child continues to be a total joy. I can't even describe how rewarding to parent he can be. Yesterday he made me so proud I'm about to burst.
He had a tournament this weekend with his team. Saturday evening some of his team mates had sneaked out to nearby city to party and were busted when they came back to sport centre they were middle of the night, more or less drunk. First, my easy child wasn't with them, he was a good boy and sleeping in his bed. Second, it wasn't because he wasn't ask to go with them. He was, two of his best friends in the team were among the busted ones. easy child had declined joining them because there was a game left at Sunday. Even though that game was last of their regular season and wasn't to change their standing in any case. Boys busted will be suspended by the team from playing in first playoff round (they are required to train and travel with them though.) Not having them in the lineup will make it much harder for easy child's team to win that round so easy child and other boys who didn't sneak out are quite angry with them. Still easy child was quite worried and compassionate with one of the boys who has strict or maybe mainly overly zealous sport dad, who easy child thinks will be very hard for his son over missing playoff games. (According to husband who knows that family better than I, easy child's worry is unfortunately not unfounded.) And easy child doesn't even like this boy to begin with. So I'm very proud of him in both making a right decision under peer pressure and being able to be compassionate with someone he doesn't even like and who has just let him and others down and made it much more difficult for easy child's team to succeed. This boy is not only quite a good player but also very difficult to cover, so not having him in the lineup can very easily cost them the series even not considering other suspended kids.
And then at the evening easy child came to me for the help with his school. We have let him swim or sink during the last two periods (they have five of them a year, now we are middle of fourth) to teach him a lesson of time management. He has been sinking. His third period grades were down from 90's to 60's and even one 40 (lowest passed is 50) and he did only make excuses and we pretended to buy them. Now he is again badly behind in his work and had some work due this week he didn't have time to complete. Yesterday evening he came and told me whole sordid tale in tears, admitted he had failed to do the work and manage his time well and asked me to help with sorting it up. So I sat down with him and we made a new schedule for him to make up the lacking work from this period and looked the times he could redo the exams from last period and raise the grades. I advised him to choose from the work that is due this week the ones he can do and go to talk with teachers about getting more time to others today. So he was recognizing the mess he was in, took accountability and asked help. Isn't that one perfect sixteen-year-old boy if there is such a thing?
easy child has always been such a joy to parent from day one. When he was a baby, he was soothed when you comforted him, fussed when he was hungry or wet or wanted some company or be held/carried. He smiled back when you smiled to him. And ever after that he has continued to be so rewarding to parent. Teach him and he learns, be nice to him and he is nice back. he does all age-appropriate milestones and developmental periods at the right time and right way. And he can really make you feel like success as a parent. He is just such a joy to have I would hope everyone would have one of him
He had a tournament this weekend with his team. Saturday evening some of his team mates had sneaked out to nearby city to party and were busted when they came back to sport centre they were middle of the night, more or less drunk. First, my easy child wasn't with them, he was a good boy and sleeping in his bed. Second, it wasn't because he wasn't ask to go with them. He was, two of his best friends in the team were among the busted ones. easy child had declined joining them because there was a game left at Sunday. Even though that game was last of their regular season and wasn't to change their standing in any case. Boys busted will be suspended by the team from playing in first playoff round (they are required to train and travel with them though.) Not having them in the lineup will make it much harder for easy child's team to win that round so easy child and other boys who didn't sneak out are quite angry with them. Still easy child was quite worried and compassionate with one of the boys who has strict or maybe mainly overly zealous sport dad, who easy child thinks will be very hard for his son over missing playoff games. (According to husband who knows that family better than I, easy child's worry is unfortunately not unfounded.) And easy child doesn't even like this boy to begin with. So I'm very proud of him in both making a right decision under peer pressure and being able to be compassionate with someone he doesn't even like and who has just let him and others down and made it much more difficult for easy child's team to succeed. This boy is not only quite a good player but also very difficult to cover, so not having him in the lineup can very easily cost them the series even not considering other suspended kids.
And then at the evening easy child came to me for the help with his school. We have let him swim or sink during the last two periods (they have five of them a year, now we are middle of fourth) to teach him a lesson of time management. He has been sinking. His third period grades were down from 90's to 60's and even one 40 (lowest passed is 50) and he did only make excuses and we pretended to buy them. Now he is again badly behind in his work and had some work due this week he didn't have time to complete. Yesterday evening he came and told me whole sordid tale in tears, admitted he had failed to do the work and manage his time well and asked me to help with sorting it up. So I sat down with him and we made a new schedule for him to make up the lacking work from this period and looked the times he could redo the exams from last period and raise the grades. I advised him to choose from the work that is due this week the ones he can do and go to talk with teachers about getting more time to others today. So he was recognizing the mess he was in, took accountability and asked help. Isn't that one perfect sixteen-year-old boy if there is such a thing?
easy child has always been such a joy to parent from day one. When he was a baby, he was soothed when you comforted him, fussed when he was hungry or wet or wanted some company or be held/carried. He smiled back when you smiled to him. And ever after that he has continued to be so rewarding to parent. Teach him and he learns, be nice to him and he is nice back. he does all age-appropriate milestones and developmental periods at the right time and right way. And he can really make you feel like success as a parent. He is just such a joy to have I would hope everyone would have one of him
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