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toughlovin
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Hi Everyone,
Oh what a darned roller coaster ride this is. After my last positive post on the other thread I was hopeful. He wrote such good letters to us and had good open conversations with us and he seems to really want help.... although he keeps saying the drug use is not the real problem.... but still if felt like he was in the right place.
Well they called us yesterday. His behavior has been bad and he has gotten into a not good relationship with another patient!!! They think his problems include sexual compulsion or something and they are not really equipped to handle that!!! Yep they will need to let him go. (Just insert many non allowed swear words in here)!
The good thing is they gave me referrals to 3 different places who deal with this kind of thing. Two seem good to me, the third is shorter term and you need an outpatient plan in place which he does not have so that one is out. Both programs are yet in another state and neither of them allow smoking.... interesting they told me that research has shown that with addictions cigarettes are show to trigger cravings so they do nicotine patches etc but do not allow smoking!!
So the big question of course is will he agree to go to either of these other places? I think he is going to balk big time, but then what are his other options? We have a phone call with him and the therapists tomorrow morning..... I am just hoping that the part of him that truly wants help wakes up and does what he needs to do to get it. I can't stand the thought of him being on the street again but coming home is absolutely not an option.
TL
Oh what a darned roller coaster ride this is. After my last positive post on the other thread I was hopeful. He wrote such good letters to us and had good open conversations with us and he seems to really want help.... although he keeps saying the drug use is not the real problem.... but still if felt like he was in the right place.
Well they called us yesterday. His behavior has been bad and he has gotten into a not good relationship with another patient!!! They think his problems include sexual compulsion or something and they are not really equipped to handle that!!! Yep they will need to let him go. (Just insert many non allowed swear words in here)!
The good thing is they gave me referrals to 3 different places who deal with this kind of thing. Two seem good to me, the third is shorter term and you need an outpatient plan in place which he does not have so that one is out. Both programs are yet in another state and neither of them allow smoking.... interesting they told me that research has shown that with addictions cigarettes are show to trigger cravings so they do nicotine patches etc but do not allow smoking!!
So the big question of course is will he agree to go to either of these other places? I think he is going to balk big time, but then what are his other options? We have a phone call with him and the therapists tomorrow morning..... I am just hoping that the part of him that truly wants help wakes up and does what he needs to do to get it. I can't stand the thought of him being on the street again but coming home is absolutely not an option.
TL