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<blockquote data-quote="NotMyKidd" data-source="post: 610448" data-attributes="member: 2175"><p>I first came to this board 9 years ago when my son was 15 and I discovered he was doing meth. He is 24 now...</p><p></p><p>I am posting to you because if you are thinking anything like I was thinking 9 years ago, you are thinking your kid won't turn out as bad as some of the other kids on this board. Yeah, I actually had the naivety and audacity to think that. It's because it was so foreign to me, and he had such a bright future, and we were a "good" family <rolling eyes at myself> that I could not fathom he would continue to make a mess of his life and ours. But, at 24 he is still a messed up human being. </p><p></p><p>I'm posting this to you, because I don't want you to fall into the same trap I did. I have believed it Every. Single. Time. he has told me he was clean and was going to stay clean, over the last 9 years. But they can't. They will lie, cheat, and steal to get more. Oh sure, they might get clean for a while and even get a decent job and maintain a decent relationship. But eventually they fall back to old habits and lose everything. My son has had and lost 8 jobs in the last 5 years. He has wrecked 2 vehicles and destroyed another one by not putting oil in it. His car insurance premiums are $550 a month. Guess who pays the bulk of that...</p><p></p><p>Now, having said all of that, let me also talk about my daughter. Maybe, just maybe, your daughter will turn out like mine. She too turned to drugs when she was 17, but I didn't know about it. With my son, I knew it within the first 6 months. With my daughter, though, I didn't really know because she did it after she moved out of our house at 17. Her moving out was actually for good reasons - She graduated from hs a year early with honors, moved out, got a good job, and has been a productive member of society every since. She is now 28, is married with two beautiful kids, has been at the same job for 11 years and has been promoted to a prime position, and just bought a beautiful new home. </p><p></p><p>But, from 17 to age 20, when her first child was born, she did drugs off and on. Meth. She wanted to be skinny. I don't know how she kept that job. Well, yes, I do - Meth makes you work fast with little to no sleep, so she excelled at her job and no one knew. When she got pregnant with her first child, she stopped the drugs cold turkey and is now an strong advocate against drugs. </p><p></p><p>Thank God the drugs in her body did not harm her baby. He is now a bright 7 year old in second grade, reading at a 4th grade level and doing math at a 3d grade level. I hope to God he never turns to drugs like his uncle...</p><p></p><p>So, hopefully your daughter will turn out like my daughter. I really do think mine didn't stay on drugs because her reasoning for going on them was different - to get skinny. Whereas my son went on drugs because he is not as strong a person as my daughter. Ah, I could list his shortcomings, but I will save that for another thread, rather than your thread. </p><p></p><p>I really, really hope this is not the beginning of many years of tears, stress, worry, anger, etc for you. I hope your daughter realizes a life of drugs is not what she wants.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="NotMyKidd, post: 610448, member: 2175"] I first came to this board 9 years ago when my son was 15 and I discovered he was doing meth. He is 24 now... I am posting to you because if you are thinking anything like I was thinking 9 years ago, you are thinking your kid won't turn out as bad as some of the other kids on this board. Yeah, I actually had the naivety and audacity to think that. It's because it was so foreign to me, and he had such a bright future, and we were a "good" family <rolling eyes at myself> that I could not fathom he would continue to make a mess of his life and ours. But, at 24 he is still a messed up human being. I'm posting this to you, because I don't want you to fall into the same trap I did. I have believed it Every. Single. Time. he has told me he was clean and was going to stay clean, over the last 9 years. But they can't. They will lie, cheat, and steal to get more. Oh sure, they might get clean for a while and even get a decent job and maintain a decent relationship. But eventually they fall back to old habits and lose everything. My son has had and lost 8 jobs in the last 5 years. He has wrecked 2 vehicles and destroyed another one by not putting oil in it. His car insurance premiums are $550 a month. Guess who pays the bulk of that... Now, having said all of that, let me also talk about my daughter. Maybe, just maybe, your daughter will turn out like mine. She too turned to drugs when she was 17, but I didn't know about it. With my son, I knew it within the first 6 months. With my daughter, though, I didn't really know because she did it after she moved out of our house at 17. Her moving out was actually for good reasons - She graduated from hs a year early with honors, moved out, got a good job, and has been a productive member of society every since. She is now 28, is married with two beautiful kids, has been at the same job for 11 years and has been promoted to a prime position, and just bought a beautiful new home. But, from 17 to age 20, when her first child was born, she did drugs off and on. Meth. She wanted to be skinny. I don't know how she kept that job. Well, yes, I do - Meth makes you work fast with little to no sleep, so she excelled at her job and no one knew. When she got pregnant with her first child, she stopped the drugs cold turkey and is now an strong advocate against drugs. Thank God the drugs in her body did not harm her baby. He is now a bright 7 year old in second grade, reading at a 4th grade level and doing math at a 3d grade level. I hope to God he never turns to drugs like his uncle... So, hopefully your daughter will turn out like my daughter. I really do think mine didn't stay on drugs because her reasoning for going on them was different - to get skinny. Whereas my son went on drugs because he is not as strong a person as my daughter. Ah, I could list his shortcomings, but I will save that for another thread, rather than your thread. I really, really hope this is not the beginning of many years of tears, stress, worry, anger, etc for you. I hope your daughter realizes a life of drugs is not what she wants. [/QUOTE]
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