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I just got one of those dreaded messages from my son
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 686745" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My son has been like this too. He still can be. In fact, it is his most preferred track. It is his default, so to speak. Except that now I believe he is seeing, in moments, how much this costs him. We distrust him. We are angry. We feel victimized. I am deeply hurt. He sees this.</p><p></p><p>I think he is worried that my distress might kill me or make me sick. It is sad it has to get so bad, but this idea that I am a real person with real vulnerability--a person he loves and needs--and he is hurting me and our relationship and himself through his spiritual laziness--just now seems to have occurred to him.</p><p></p><p>For some reason, he is being able to see his foolishness sometimes, and acknowledge it to us and to himself. And this is leading to some behavior change.</p><p></p><p>Tanya. It sounds like your son may be going through something similar. Seeing that he is the emperor with no clothes. At least getting a glimpse. There has to be a reason for that fable. Maybe there have been difficult children throughout the ages.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 686745, member: 18958"] My son has been like this too. He still can be. In fact, it is his most preferred track. It is his default, so to speak. Except that now I believe he is seeing, in moments, how much this costs him. We distrust him. We are angry. We feel victimized. I am deeply hurt. He sees this. I think he is worried that my distress might kill me or make me sick. It is sad it has to get so bad, but this idea that I am a real person with real vulnerability--a person he loves and needs--and he is hurting me and our relationship and himself through his spiritual laziness--just now seems to have occurred to him. For some reason, he is being able to see his foolishness sometimes, and acknowledge it to us and to himself. And this is leading to some behavior change. Tanya. It sounds like your son may be going through something similar. Seeing that he is the emperor with no clothes. At least getting a glimpse. There has to be a reason for that fable. Maybe there have been difficult children throughout the ages. [/QUOTE]
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