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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 593946" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>the whole "system" is a HUGE joke. That's one of the biggest problems. difficult child gets in trouble. Gets a little "tap" (not even a SLAP) on the wrist. In his mind that's not so bad. Even the time he spent in jail has been forgotten by him. Must not have been "that bad". And he knows his PO won't do anything because the PO is in another state and basically sent difficult child back to NJ bc he didn't want to deal with his petty case. Yet this is the PO who refused to allow him to go to Idaho. Uggggh. But you know what? I'm actually glad I didn't send difficult child to Idaho because I don't think my dad would have been able to handle him. His problems are far worse than I ever thought and I see that more and more now that he's back in NJ.</p><p></p><p>WTW- Thanks - I appreciate you thinking of me! It really helps. And yes - I know I've done everything I can. I really do know that. I always think I'm "done" but there's a little voice inside my head telling me not to give up on him. However, that being said, each time difficult child messes up all of the hard work I've done to get him help that voice gets smaller and smaller. I'm hoping eventually it will go away altogether. And it's funny you say that about the warm weather because I was thinking <em><strong>exactly</strong></em> that last night - "At least it's not 20 degrees". Uggggh!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, he called me this morning from the shelter. He said he caught the 9:30 van back because the 7:30 one never came. He was there at 7:15 he said so, of course, it's not his fault. We all know that's not the truth but he'll never admit it because he can do no wrong. It's <em><strong>always</strong></em> somebody else's fault. He even made a comment before saying as much. At that point I told him flat out to get over himself, start doing the right thing, stop blaming others, and stop with the BS already! Enough's enough! </p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what his repercussions will be for missing curfew but I'm sure he won't react well. But you know what? It is what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 593946, member: 12470"] the whole "system" is a HUGE joke. That's one of the biggest problems. difficult child gets in trouble. Gets a little "tap" (not even a SLAP) on the wrist. In his mind that's not so bad. Even the time he spent in jail has been forgotten by him. Must not have been "that bad". And he knows his PO won't do anything because the PO is in another state and basically sent difficult child back to NJ bc he didn't want to deal with his petty case. Yet this is the PO who refused to allow him to go to Idaho. Uggggh. But you know what? I'm actually glad I didn't send difficult child to Idaho because I don't think my dad would have been able to handle him. His problems are far worse than I ever thought and I see that more and more now that he's back in NJ. WTW- Thanks - I appreciate you thinking of me! It really helps. And yes - I know I've done everything I can. I really do know that. I always think I'm "done" but there's a little voice inside my head telling me not to give up on him. However, that being said, each time difficult child messes up all of the hard work I've done to get him help that voice gets smaller and smaller. I'm hoping eventually it will go away altogether. And it's funny you say that about the warm weather because I was thinking [I][B]exactly[/B][/I] that last night - "At least it's not 20 degrees". Uggggh! Anyway, he called me this morning from the shelter. He said he caught the 9:30 van back because the 7:30 one never came. He was there at 7:15 he said so, of course, it's not his fault. We all know that's not the truth but he'll never admit it because he can do no wrong. It's [I][B]always[/B][/I] somebody else's fault. He even made a comment before saying as much. At that point I told him flat out to get over himself, start doing the right thing, stop blaming others, and stop with the BS already! Enough's enough! I'm not sure what his repercussions will be for missing curfew but I'm sure he won't react well. But you know what? It is what it is. [/QUOTE]
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