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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 245030" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Susan,</p><p></p><p>I am sorry you seem to be in the same situation still. If you told your son he couldn't stay with you, and he is sleeping in your home, what message are you sending?</p><p></p><p>That you don't mean anything you say?</p><p></p><p>YOU don't have to go to drug classes. So don't drive him. Let him find rides with others. Let him call his PO and say "I don't have a ride. Please help me."</p><p></p><p>Because if he really WANTS to do this, he will. And if he doesn't really WANT this, all your actions just help him keep on using.</p><p></p><p>Let HIM figure out where to stay if his situation is a bad one.</p><p></p><p>Let HIM figure things out, do what he needs to, deal with things.</p><p></p><p>You talk a lot about him having problems with his "nerves". The BEST way to cope with this is to detox from all the things he is using. It is not fun. It is ugly and scary.</p><p></p><p>But THAT is the ONLY real way to deal with his "nerves".</p><p></p><p>Please make him get up and leave. If he won't leave on his own, call the police. If you let him stay then he will talk you into more, and more, and more.</p><p></p><p>Stop NOW before you go down the slippery slope of more enabling his drug use.</p><p></p><p>Love him enough to make him be a MAN, not your son, not a boy, but a MAN who has to make it on his own.</p><p></p><p>Turn your energies to your other children, your work, your husband, and hobbies. Find ways to fill your days so that you CANNOT drive him around, etc....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 245030, member: 1233"] Susan, I am sorry you seem to be in the same situation still. If you told your son he couldn't stay with you, and he is sleeping in your home, what message are you sending? That you don't mean anything you say? YOU don't have to go to drug classes. So don't drive him. Let him find rides with others. Let him call his PO and say "I don't have a ride. Please help me." Because if he really WANTS to do this, he will. And if he doesn't really WANT this, all your actions just help him keep on using. Let HIM figure out where to stay if his situation is a bad one. Let HIM figure things out, do what he needs to, deal with things. You talk a lot about him having problems with his "nerves". The BEST way to cope with this is to detox from all the things he is using. It is not fun. It is ugly and scary. But THAT is the ONLY real way to deal with his "nerves". Please make him get up and leave. If he won't leave on his own, call the police. If you let him stay then he will talk you into more, and more, and more. Stop NOW before you go down the slippery slope of more enabling his drug use. Love him enough to make him be a MAN, not your son, not a boy, but a MAN who has to make it on his own. Turn your energies to your other children, your work, your husband, and hobbies. Find ways to fill your days so that you CANNOT drive him around, etc.... [/QUOTE]
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