Hello. I am new here but should have found it a long time ago! My son is almost 11 and ADHD (like super bad!) and recently has been seeing a psychologist that tested him and counsels him. He also has diagnosed him with ODD, possible depression and an identity crisis- AT 10! My son's boyfriend hasn't had any contact with him in almost a year. (Is a drug addict, alcholic ect.) We moved 7 hours from him when my son was 2 to live with my now ex boyfriend. That wasn't the best relationship but it wasn't horrible either. Recently (2 years ago) I remarried (different guy). He is active duty Army and just came home from his 5th deployment. (He has some major PTSD issues that he isn't having treated also to add to my stress, none of which really effect us, mostly his sleep) Anyway, my son has always been difficult. He (about once a month) has melt-downs where he may hit things, throw things, break things ect. He never is respectful of us or anything he owns. He steals small items and often purposely does things he knows will hurt my feelings. I had another baby in Dec and he is great with her so that I guess is a plus in all this. There is so much more but I guess I am just to worn out to tell it all...I am sure that many ppl understand. I am just ready to throw in the towel and give up on him ever changing or at least learning that his behavior isn't acceptable. I know it is a disorder and we have been referred to another (more equipped) behavorial health program but the waiting list is over a year long and we are moving to GA from NY in two months so I guess we will be right back to square one there. We also have issues because my son wants to hyphenate his last name (I think to feel like he fits in with usand we are going to try to have boyfriend's parental rights taken away. I just am tired, frustrated beyond imagination and upset that no matter how hard I try I just can't seem to help my son. I catch small glimpses of the kid I know he wants to be but he just can't control the negativity. His boyfriend is the same way and I am so afraid that no matter what we do his is going to go down that path too. Anyway, I will end there for tonight...thanks for listening.