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I kicked out DS, told him to choose drug rehab or police
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 668601" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Terry, try to keep in mind this is not urgent emergency. I mean, it is not a good situation, but right now no one's life is endangered. Take your time, breath, do not rush. You do not need to get him to rehab tomorrow, couple weeks from now will work just as fine (and give him time to understand how limited his options are.)When we feel pressured to make big decisions right now in that instant, we often end up doing things we may regret or settle for less than what is actually needed. If it is not life and death situation, it is better to take a step back, consider your options and evaluate them carefully to find the most fitting. You are also not obliged to follow through something you may have said when feeling pressured if those options do not make sense after careful evaluation. </p><p></p><p>Just pot does not likely interest police that much, so trying to threaten with that may not be effective. But him not being able to stay and use pot is something that will, with some time, limit his options so much that some realities of life will likely dawn to him. Few weeks will likely also give him time to wear out his welcome in T's house, and, unfortunately, for him to notice he may not have what it takes to take care of a newborn just now. This could help him to understand he wants something else from his life and give him some motivation to work to get closer to lifestyle he has accustomed to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 668601, member: 14557"] Terry, try to keep in mind this is not urgent emergency. I mean, it is not a good situation, but right now no one's life is endangered. Take your time, breath, do not rush. You do not need to get him to rehab tomorrow, couple weeks from now will work just as fine (and give him time to understand how limited his options are.)When we feel pressured to make big decisions right now in that instant, we often end up doing things we may regret or settle for less than what is actually needed. If it is not life and death situation, it is better to take a step back, consider your options and evaluate them carefully to find the most fitting. You are also not obliged to follow through something you may have said when feeling pressured if those options do not make sense after careful evaluation. Just pot does not likely interest police that much, so trying to threaten with that may not be effective. But him not being able to stay and use pot is something that will, with some time, limit his options so much that some realities of life will likely dawn to him. Few weeks will likely also give him time to wear out his welcome in T's house, and, unfortunately, for him to notice he may not have what it takes to take care of a newborn just now. This could help him to understand he wants something else from his life and give him some motivation to work to get closer to lifestyle he has accustomed to. [/QUOTE]
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