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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 612850" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>It was good she went after all. Because of her health issues, and probably also for other reasons, she has made it a habit not to go to school. For most kids going to school is not something they ponder, they just go, because the other option doesn't sound plausible to them. For kids who miss a lot of school days, for whatever reason, it comes a choice, to go or not to go and they don't go much easier than the kids who seldom miss school. I see this on my easy child very well. Before when he very seldom missed school, he didn't even think about not going, never mind asked if he could stay home, if he wasn't really ill. Now when he misses lots of school (for his sport and with permission), he is much more likely not to go also for other, much smaller than before, reasons. Just because now he stops and thinks if he wants to go to school and not just go like before.</p><p></p><p>And when they stay home, and especially kids with trouble at school, every day it comes more and more difficult for them to go back. And the point there going back becomes almost impossible can come surprisingly quickly. So even though her absence was for legitimate reasons it is very possible it was enough to make it difficult for her t6o go back. So it was very good you were able to get her to school before weekend, even if it was late and only part of the day. But if not, it would had been even much more difficult at Monday. If I were you, I would try to arrange her some help to make sure she is wake and gets to bus at Monday. Just ignoring her alarm and sleeping is way too easy for her. When you get her back to habit of just going every morning and not seeing it as multiple choice question, it will be much easier. </p><p></p><p>With my difficult child, if I would had actually needed to get him to school when he was a teen, and even more so, to stay there, I would had been so screwed. We got lucky in him not actually needing going to school to learn, and school accepting that in the end. Without that, I don't know where we would had ended up to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 612850, member: 14557"] It was good she went after all. Because of her health issues, and probably also for other reasons, she has made it a habit not to go to school. For most kids going to school is not something they ponder, they just go, because the other option doesn't sound plausible to them. For kids who miss a lot of school days, for whatever reason, it comes a choice, to go or not to go and they don't go much easier than the kids who seldom miss school. I see this on my easy child very well. Before when he very seldom missed school, he didn't even think about not going, never mind asked if he could stay home, if he wasn't really ill. Now when he misses lots of school (for his sport and with permission), he is much more likely not to go also for other, much smaller than before, reasons. Just because now he stops and thinks if he wants to go to school and not just go like before. And when they stay home, and especially kids with trouble at school, every day it comes more and more difficult for them to go back. And the point there going back becomes almost impossible can come surprisingly quickly. So even though her absence was for legitimate reasons it is very possible it was enough to make it difficult for her t6o go back. So it was very good you were able to get her to school before weekend, even if it was late and only part of the day. But if not, it would had been even much more difficult at Monday. If I were you, I would try to arrange her some help to make sure she is wake and gets to bus at Monday. Just ignoring her alarm and sleeping is way too easy for her. When you get her back to habit of just going every morning and not seeing it as multiple choice question, it will be much easier. With my difficult child, if I would had actually needed to get him to school when he was a teen, and even more so, to stay there, I would had been so screwed. We got lucky in him not actually needing going to school to learn, and school accepting that in the end. Without that, I don't know where we would had ended up to. [/QUOTE]
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