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I know I'm doing the right thing but I am BROKEN
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 736720" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>My daughter's choice of drugs is/was benzos. She is sober now and told me if given a choice between benzos or heroin while she was still in active addiction, she would take benzos hands down.</p><p></p><p>My daughter did it all. She drank, abused benzos, and mainlined heroin. She overdosed several times. If you changed the pronouns in your post, it could have been something I wrote ten years ago when I joined this board.</p><p></p><p>Therapy is what saved me (and my daughter). Two years of private therapy taught me how to set firm boundaries. My therapist told my husband and me that our daughter would use whatever scared us the most to manipulate us into enabling her druggie lifestyle. So she told us she was hungry (she wasn't), that she was sick (she wasn't), and that she was homeless (she wasn't). And every penny we gave her for food or shelter actually went straight to drugs.</p><p></p><p>My therapist told me once that I was my daughter's drug supplier. I was taken aback until she pointed out that every penny we gave her for things that functioning adults pay for themselves made it possible for her to buy drugs instead.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if you son has health insurance but if he does, look up residential treatment centers and give him a list. Or if he doesn't, give him a list of sober living facilities. Tell him it is his choice whether he wants to go into treatment or live on the streets. If he tells you that he doesn't have a problem or need treatment, then tell him that he should be able to find a job and take care of himself just like other adults do.</p><p></p><p>We had a poster here long ago that kept a picture of young soldiers next to her phone to remind herself that 18-year-olds have fought and died for our country. 22 is not too young to take care of himself.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 736720, member: 1967"] My daughter's choice of drugs is/was benzos. She is sober now and told me if given a choice between benzos or heroin while she was still in active addiction, she would take benzos hands down. My daughter did it all. She drank, abused benzos, and mainlined heroin. She overdosed several times. If you changed the pronouns in your post, it could have been something I wrote ten years ago when I joined this board. Therapy is what saved me (and my daughter). Two years of private therapy taught me how to set firm boundaries. My therapist told my husband and me that our daughter would use whatever scared us the most to manipulate us into enabling her druggie lifestyle. So she told us she was hungry (she wasn't), that she was sick (she wasn't), and that she was homeless (she wasn't). And every penny we gave her for food or shelter actually went straight to drugs. My therapist told me once that I was my daughter's drug supplier. I was taken aback until she pointed out that every penny we gave her for things that functioning adults pay for themselves made it possible for her to buy drugs instead. I don't know if you son has health insurance but if he does, look up residential treatment centers and give him a list. Or if he doesn't, give him a list of sober living facilities. Tell him it is his choice whether he wants to go into treatment or live on the streets. If he tells you that he doesn't have a problem or need treatment, then tell him that he should be able to find a job and take care of himself just like other adults do. We had a poster here long ago that kept a picture of young soldiers next to her phone to remind herself that 18-year-olds have fought and died for our country. 22 is not too young to take care of himself. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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