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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 135223" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><strong>kt's 13 as well - there is nothing we can say or do to correct this situation. We know nothing, are nothing see nothing......<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/talkhand.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":talkhand:" title="talkhand :talkhand:" data-shortname=":talkhand:" /></strong><strong><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /></strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Personally, I ask for a "redo" or us my "excuse me"; when I got that "redo" I would be glad to help her with whatever problem is making her loose her friggin head. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Our difficult children live so in the moment - you're right it's always very reactive. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>My goal is to teach kt to stop & think; if she cannot be her own brakes than I or someone else will step in with reminders (redo) so she doesn't explode to crisis team or 911 level. Just asking kt to leave a room isn't going to clean up a situation like this - it's going to take a whole lot more.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>While I remind kt that she is 13 and can work this out, I always remember that her emotional/cognitive ages are so out of whack with her physical. I still work on getting her ages closer together & I make no excuses for non 13 y/o choices & behaviors. It's just a reality with my kt - AND with many of our difficult children here. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Another option & I love this one. Get a different colored set of measuring cups for each of your children - make them responsible for them. If their cups are missing they cannot make whatever it is they want to make (pudding, whatever). Might help them with organizational skills - might not. I would just find it fun to watch.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Have a good one - let us know how you're going to handle this next time. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 135223, member: 393"] [B]kt's 13 as well - there is nothing we can say or do to correct this situation. We know nothing, are nothing see nothing......:talkhand:[/B][B]:bigsmile: Personally, I ask for a "redo" or us my "excuse me"; when I got that "redo" I would be glad to help her with whatever problem is making her loose her friggin head. Our difficult children live so in the moment - you're right it's always very reactive. My goal is to teach kt to stop & think; if she cannot be her own brakes than I or someone else will step in with reminders (redo) so she doesn't explode to crisis team or 911 level. Just asking kt to leave a room isn't going to clean up a situation like this - it's going to take a whole lot more. While I remind kt that she is 13 and can work this out, I always remember that her emotional/cognitive ages are so out of whack with her physical. I still work on getting her ages closer together & I make no excuses for non 13 y/o choices & behaviors. It's just a reality with my kt - AND with many of our difficult children here. Another option & I love this one. Get a different colored set of measuring cups for each of your children - make them responsible for them. If their cups are missing they cannot make whatever it is they want to make (pudding, whatever). Might help them with organizational skills - might not. I would just find it fun to watch. Have a good one - let us know how you're going to handle this next time. [/B] [/QUOTE]
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