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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 243655" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>No. We shouldn't compare. But it's normal to do so. I shed so many tears for the same reason over the years. Sometimes it just grabs you by the heartstrings and gives a yank.</p><p> </p><p>It helped when I'd force myself to think of the positives about my difficult children. Travis had this scary ability to be able to take anything mechanical apart and put it back together again. He picked up musical insturments and just played the darned things. Amazing. At 8 Nichole drew a picture of a bird that looked like it would fly off the page. Her ability with animals still makes me shake my head.</p><p> </p><p>Focusing on their strengths got me thru some rather very tough times.</p><p> </p><p>With Travis I did alot of grieving. I made a break thru when I realized I wasn't grieving because he is not "normal" nor never will be. I was grieving for all the potential that had been there but because of his disabilities would never be realized. </p><p> </p><p>Focusing on the positives (even when it seemed like there wasn't any) did wonders for me. If we're not careful we can get too caught up in the difficult child behaviors and sort of forget the kid behind it all. Especially during bad times.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 243655, member: 84"] No. We shouldn't compare. But it's normal to do so. I shed so many tears for the same reason over the years. Sometimes it just grabs you by the heartstrings and gives a yank. It helped when I'd force myself to think of the positives about my difficult children. Travis had this scary ability to be able to take anything mechanical apart and put it back together again. He picked up musical insturments and just played the darned things. Amazing. At 8 Nichole drew a picture of a bird that looked like it would fly off the page. Her ability with animals still makes me shake my head. Focusing on their strengths got me thru some rather very tough times. With Travis I did alot of grieving. I made a break thru when I realized I wasn't grieving because he is not "normal" nor never will be. I was grieving for all the potential that had been there but because of his disabilities would never be realized. Focusing on the positives (even when it seemed like there wasn't any) did wonders for me. If we're not careful we can get too caught up in the difficult child behaviors and sort of forget the kid behind it all. Especially during bad times. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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