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<blockquote data-quote="C.J." data-source="post: 243768" data-attributes="member: 1987"><p>Oh I can relate. I volunteer in the nursery at my church every Sunday with a mom who has a easy child daughter who was in the same school/grade as N*. Her easy child daughter volunteered in the 1-2 year old room for six years (grade 7 thru 12). She left us when she started college in another city this past fall. easy child's mom is understandably proud of her daughter, who graduated from high school with honors, got a partial scholarship to go to college, and stayed out of trouble. This young lady has a whole world of wonderful opportunities open to her.</p><p></p><p>When N* was younger, she would come to church to volunteer with me as we played with babies for an hour. Then she discovered trouble in all shapes and sizes and that was more fun than volunteering in church, going to school, studying, getting a job, getting a driver's license.... With all the trouble N* has been in, she has a criminal record, and will not have the some opportunities others without a criminal record will have. Now that N* is pregnant, if she chooses to raise the baby (in a home of her own, not mine!), she will have even fewer opportunities to get an education and support herself.</p><p></p><p>While my burdens are different from everyone else's burdens, I know I cannot logically compare the two. What I can do is look myself in the mirror every day and truthfully state I shoulder my burdens to the best of my ability. I complain sometimes. I cry sometimes. I sarcastically vent sometimes. I try to do these things out of range of difficult child - because these are MY burdens. </p><p></p><p>I also remember the day a judge said, "Do you voluntarily take on the responsibility to love and care for this child - through sickness and health, through good times and bad, to the best of your ability?" Yes, I do. She is the best gift I have ever been given, and I say this to her - because that is her gift from me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C.J., post: 243768, member: 1987"] Oh I can relate. I volunteer in the nursery at my church every Sunday with a mom who has a easy child daughter who was in the same school/grade as N*. Her easy child daughter volunteered in the 1-2 year old room for six years (grade 7 thru 12). She left us when she started college in another city this past fall. easy child's mom is understandably proud of her daughter, who graduated from high school with honors, got a partial scholarship to go to college, and stayed out of trouble. This young lady has a whole world of wonderful opportunities open to her. When N* was younger, she would come to church to volunteer with me as we played with babies for an hour. Then she discovered trouble in all shapes and sizes and that was more fun than volunteering in church, going to school, studying, getting a job, getting a driver's license.... With all the trouble N* has been in, she has a criminal record, and will not have the some opportunities others without a criminal record will have. Now that N* is pregnant, if she chooses to raise the baby (in a home of her own, not mine!), she will have even fewer opportunities to get an education and support herself. While my burdens are different from everyone else's burdens, I know I cannot logically compare the two. What I can do is look myself in the mirror every day and truthfully state I shoulder my burdens to the best of my ability. I complain sometimes. I cry sometimes. I sarcastically vent sometimes. I try to do these things out of range of difficult child - because these are MY burdens. I also remember the day a judge said, "Do you voluntarily take on the responsibility to love and care for this child - through sickness and health, through good times and bad, to the best of your ability?" Yes, I do. She is the best gift I have ever been given, and I say this to her - because that is her gift from me. [/QUOTE]
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