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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 105377" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Leave the tree down for tonight. The two of you can put it back up tomorrow. Just let him know that Christmas is on, that you're sorry you lost control of you and let him know that you love him regardless. As to a consequence for the TV issue, I'd say for every hour that the main TV isn't working, he loses a day of TV. Seems fair to me.</p><p></p><p>I would have eaten my dinner and then looked for the remote. It's amazing what a little food in the stomach can do for your frame of mind.</p><p></p><p>What could have been a nice evening together ended up being a disaster for both of you. Because he didn't look for the remote as well as you feel he should have, he got a lecture and then was told no movie. He takes the TV away from you since you took it from him, you take Christmas away from both of you. It is easy to have things escalate, especially when you're tired, stressed, depressed and frustrated. </p><p></p><p>I know, I've been there done that. It took therapy for me to find better ways to react. I wasn't being fair to my daughter or myself. The punishments (they weren't consequences) didn't even remotely fit the crimes.</p><p></p><p>Single parenting is hard at the best of times. Early teens with a child with issues is definitely the worst of times. You have to find time for you. You have to forgive yourself your mistakes and you have to forgive him his mistakes.</p><p></p><p>Have fun putting the tree up tomorrow. Find something to laugh about. Give him a hug or tousel his hair or just smile at him because you can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 105377, member: 3626"] Leave the tree down for tonight. The two of you can put it back up tomorrow. Just let him know that Christmas is on, that you're sorry you lost control of you and let him know that you love him regardless. As to a consequence for the TV issue, I'd say for every hour that the main TV isn't working, he loses a day of TV. Seems fair to me. I would have eaten my dinner and then looked for the remote. It's amazing what a little food in the stomach can do for your frame of mind. What could have been a nice evening together ended up being a disaster for both of you. Because he didn't look for the remote as well as you feel he should have, he got a lecture and then was told no movie. He takes the TV away from you since you took it from him, you take Christmas away from both of you. It is easy to have things escalate, especially when you're tired, stressed, depressed and frustrated. I know, I've been there done that. It took therapy for me to find better ways to react. I wasn't being fair to my daughter or myself. The punishments (they weren't consequences) didn't even remotely fit the crimes. Single parenting is hard at the best of times. Early teens with a child with issues is definitely the worst of times. You have to find time for you. You have to forgive yourself your mistakes and you have to forgive him his mistakes. Have fun putting the tree up tomorrow. Find something to laugh about. Give him a hug or tousel his hair or just smile at him because you can. [/QUOTE]
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