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I love my kids no matter how screwed up they are...
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 630222" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Where, I agree with your husband and the others who have posted here. I hear what you are saying, that you would do anything to help your kids. Most of us would, and did, and struggle with whether or not to continue to do so. But SHOULD you? And for whom would you be doing that? </p><p></p><p>The challenges your adult offspring are facing are very difficult, but their own choices are why they find themselves where they are. And as adults they need to find their own way out again. If you fix things for them it will be YOUR way, not THEIR way. If they don't feel discomfort and stress and and heartache and all the rest of it, they will have no drive to face those challenges. When they face those challenges, they become the strong and compassionate adults you raised them to be.</p><p></p><p>When you had your first child and you imagined him or her all grown up and your parenting days done, did you envision yourself still trying to solve his or her problems? I think you should not feel torn between your kids and your husband at this stage. Parenting days are done, time to enjoy life going forward with your husband!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 630222, member: 17720"] Where, I agree with your husband and the others who have posted here. I hear what you are saying, that you would do anything to help your kids. Most of us would, and did, and struggle with whether or not to continue to do so. But SHOULD you? And for whom would you be doing that? The challenges your adult offspring are facing are very difficult, but their own choices are why they find themselves where they are. And as adults they need to find their own way out again. If you fix things for them it will be YOUR way, not THEIR way. If they don't feel discomfort and stress and and heartache and all the rest of it, they will have no drive to face those challenges. When they face those challenges, they become the strong and compassionate adults you raised them to be. When you had your first child and you imagined him or her all grown up and your parenting days done, did you envision yourself still trying to solve his or her problems? I think you should not feel torn between your kids and your husband at this stage. Parenting days are done, time to enjoy life going forward with your husband! [/QUOTE]
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