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<blockquote data-quote="PonyGirl" data-source="post: 365101" data-attributes="member: 187"><p>Oh Nancy! So sorry you're feeling so bad. My son is not diagnosis MI. But he's an addict. I'm so ashamed of him! Well, okay, not of him, but of the rotten things he does! Day in and day out, this kid makes me so darn ashamed. I feel guilty, too. I feel like there's no hope, either. You are not alone, my friend. Look at the detachment stuff, it truly is a life-saver. It DOES get better! And, then it gets worse again. And then it gets better! Or, at least, it gets different. </p><p> </p><p>I've been on this road with my son for 10 years. There was a brief period when I thought he was really going to be okay. He had a son of his own. He got married. He had a steady full-time job. But.... then he got drunk again, and he went back to jail again, and he lost his job again, and it was off to the races once more. </p><p> </p><p>And so, just today in fact, at the latest news that he was about to go off and party for the weekend while his son is in the hospital after receiving a bone marrow transplant, well, I practiced my detachment skills once again. It doesn't make the problems go away. But it changes my perception of those problems. It puts the problems where they need to be. Their his problems, my daughter-in-law's problems. Their not my problems. I haven't been involved in my son's daily life for many years, but recently we've spent a lot of time together at the hospital. Today I was reminded of exactly why I haven't been so involved. It's too hard for me. I'm okay with that.</p><p> </p><p>Keep the faith, Nancy! Baby steps, a day at a time. It will get better!</p><p></p><p>Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PonyGirl, post: 365101, member: 187"] Oh Nancy! So sorry you're feeling so bad. My son is not diagnosis MI. But he's an addict. I'm so ashamed of him! Well, okay, not of him, but of the rotten things he does! Day in and day out, this kid makes me so darn ashamed. I feel guilty, too. I feel like there's no hope, either. You are not alone, my friend. Look at the detachment stuff, it truly is a life-saver. It DOES get better! And, then it gets worse again. And then it gets better! Or, at least, it gets different. I've been on this road with my son for 10 years. There was a brief period when I thought he was really going to be okay. He had a son of his own. He got married. He had a steady full-time job. But.... then he got drunk again, and he went back to jail again, and he lost his job again, and it was off to the races once more. And so, just today in fact, at the latest news that he was about to go off and party for the weekend while his son is in the hospital after receiving a bone marrow transplant, well, I practiced my detachment skills once again. It doesn't make the problems go away. But it changes my perception of those problems. It puts the problems where they need to be. Their his problems, my daughter-in-law's problems. Their not my problems. I haven't been involved in my son's daily life for many years, but recently we've spent a lot of time together at the hospital. Today I was reminded of exactly why I haven't been so involved. It's too hard for me. I'm okay with that. Keep the faith, Nancy! Baby steps, a day at a time. It will get better! Peace [/QUOTE]
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