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I messed up, fiance moved out and now I don't know what to do
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<blockquote data-quote="myeverything04" data-source="post: 500823" data-attributes="member: 13522"><p>Thank you to all and your opinions/advice. It truely does help to have someone from outside the relationship give their suggestions.</p><p></p><p>Our talk went as well as I think it could have. Fiance did say the ferret was the 'icing on the cake' and brought up a lot of things that we have discussed in the past but this time it finally hit that I do have some longstanding issues in my life that I thought I had delt with and overcome but haven't (I want to be in control of everything but don't like making decisions alone - crazy? a little. I also carry difficult child around like an egg, trying not to crack it or I think it's ruined. I feel alone in making decisions for her life and feel if they turn out wrong its all my fault. And the list continues). I have been so caught up in difficult child lately that I never even thought about fiances respiratory issues. I know that may sound stupid, but I seriously think I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and get so wrapped up in one thing (making difficult child happy with a ferret, or at least me <em>thinking</em> difficult child would be happy) that I block out all other things.</p><p></p><p>I don't think it really hit me how much I appreciate him and what he does for me and difficult child until he actually packed his clothes and left Wednesday night. We are both very stubborn people and often are so concerned with getting our own opinion across that we forget there IS another side to everything. Fiance agreed that couples counseling (along with some individual counseling for myself) would help us to communicate better. He is going to stay with his grandparents for a while until we can get some therapy going.</p><p></p><p>On a good note, I accepted a job offer Thursday and will be working full time by the beginning of February. I think this will help my self confidence, which has only gone down hill since my divorce and even more once I stopped working to go to school. My family is going to help me with getting difficult child from school so that is one stress taken care of!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="myeverything04, post: 500823, member: 13522"] Thank you to all and your opinions/advice. It truely does help to have someone from outside the relationship give their suggestions. Our talk went as well as I think it could have. Fiance did say the ferret was the 'icing on the cake' and brought up a lot of things that we have discussed in the past but this time it finally hit that I do have some longstanding issues in my life that I thought I had delt with and overcome but haven't (I want to be in control of everything but don't like making decisions alone - crazy? a little. I also carry difficult child around like an egg, trying not to crack it or I think it's ruined. I feel alone in making decisions for her life and feel if they turn out wrong its all my fault. And the list continues). I have been so caught up in difficult child lately that I never even thought about fiances respiratory issues. I know that may sound stupid, but I seriously think I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and get so wrapped up in one thing (making difficult child happy with a ferret, or at least me [I]thinking[/I] difficult child would be happy) that I block out all other things. I don't think it really hit me how much I appreciate him and what he does for me and difficult child until he actually packed his clothes and left Wednesday night. We are both very stubborn people and often are so concerned with getting our own opinion across that we forget there IS another side to everything. Fiance agreed that couples counseling (along with some individual counseling for myself) would help us to communicate better. He is going to stay with his grandparents for a while until we can get some therapy going. On a good note, I accepted a job offer Thursday and will be working full time by the beginning of February. I think this will help my self confidence, which has only gone down hill since my divorce and even more once I stopped working to go to school. My family is going to help me with getting difficult child from school so that is one stress taken care of! [/QUOTE]
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