Just had a phone call from difficult child 2 about his wedding plans. He told me that the two interlopers who took him off the streets and into their home are indeed invited to the wedding . He said that I have a choice to make about MY behavior and that I can choose to skip the wedding all together if I have a problem with them being there. These two destructive women made it possible for drug using difficult child 2 and his out of control 16 y.o. girlfriend to live as man and wife under their roof. husband, difficult child's counselor and I had been working on getting our son into a program. This is not an ex husband, father to either the bride or groom, we're dealing with here. These are two women who have yelled at my husband over the phone about our parenting, one of them told me all about difficult child 2's sexual prowess with his then girlfriend, bragged that she bought them a bucket of KY jelly for Xmas, told me that I needed to prove my love for my son. When he joined the Army she e-mailed me asking how I would feel if he came home in a body bag. The sleazy list of their behavior could go on, it's a long one. These two do not accept adoption as a viable form of parenting and have insinuated themselves into the lives of both sons, they call themselves their "sisters". I know that holding a grudge could kill me but I'm in tears now. I've just been told to put up or shut up. How would you PE parents deal with this situation?