I just got a call from my son's lawyer (not one I got for him---don't do that anymore). A brief recap: My 24 yo difficult child has been on a downward spiral with primarily prescription drugs, plus marijuana and alcohol (that I know of) for the past 4 to 6 years. Today he is in jail on a probation violation (he violated when he was homeless by not contacting his PO, this particular stint was for selling drugs two years ago---two felonies---they could send him to jail for four years but I guess they are not going to do that) and has been there since Jan. 2. The district attorney is personally involved as he knows my ex-husband and both he and my son's attorney "want to do something to help him." After discussion, the attorney asked me to find a mental health professional "we" would be comfortable with evaluating him and give him the info and he would ask the DA and judge to order it. So I did and send a psychologist name and a substance abuse counselor's name. I guess I thought maybe an evaluation at this point would be helpful to pinpoint mental health issues and even that perhaps these folks would say something in their evaluations. that he would "hear." The lawyer said my son likely will be released from jail soon after his court date of Feb. 6 with these two things ordered. My son has been in rehab/detox. four times. This last time went in mid August, failed drug test and was kicked out mid September, homeless til mid-October, asked them if he could come back then, went back til Dec. 21, when was kicked out again for failing another drug test. They said anecdotally that he was doing better for a while in their program, got promoted, but became "complacent." I was hopeful this time---not sure why, but I was. He usually can't stay anywhere for more than 30 days successfully and because he asked to go back and had been there 60 days when he left, I thought maybe something had changed. Here is my question and thought. I need a plan. For myself. He cannot come here to live and he can't go to his dad's to live. He basically will be released with nowhere to go. IF he walks to my house---my house is 2.5 miles from the jail---I can drop him back off at the Salvation Army---he lived there for three weeks once already. I have his clothes from the rehab and can give those to him. I don't want to do anything, actually. I don't even want to be involved at all. I am so, so, so, sooooooooooooooooooooooo sick and tired of this revolving door. Today I just want the peace to continue that I am fighting so hard to gain and keep.