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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 679079" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>Sooooo tired,</p><p></p><p>Anyone would be stressed with what is happening with your daughter and grandson. You aren't pathetic and don't listen to her talk negatively about you. You want to run because it's the natural gut reaction. </p><p></p><p>I taught preschool for 9 years, so I can address what you say to your grandson. First, be truthful with him. Tell him you know that he wants to see mommy. It's actually a good sign that he is attached to her. Don't tell him that he will be seeing her or staying with her unless you are positive it will happen. If you don't know when he will see her again, tell him that. Tell him his mother loves him and wants him to be safe. Tell him that she misses him too and will see him as soon as she can. Tell him he is safe with you. Do fun things with him to help him de-stress. </p><p></p><p>Every child is different, but boys typically love duplos and cars. They like running around at the park. Pounding on play-doh is also a great stress reliever. The more active you can keep him, the less stressed he will be.</p><p></p><p>It would be great if you could get him a photo of his mom or a stuffed animal or blanket from his house to sleep with. Little kids find a lot of comfort in familiar items. </p><p></p><p>One year I taught a girl whose father left her family for a second family that he had on the side in another state (what a dirtbag). He would drop her at school and leave to go to the other state for an undetermined amount of time. I would take her to the classroom, sit in a chair with her in my lap, and just hold her. She sobbed for a few minutes but after a bit would get interested in the other children playing. Once she was playing, she forgot to feel sad. She needed to feel loved and safe first, then she could go back to being a child and explore. </p><p></p><p>You could also take him to the library to find books to read to him. Essentially, ANYTHING you do with him will be a step in the right direction. I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 679079, member: 11832"] Sooooo tired, Anyone would be stressed with what is happening with your daughter and grandson. You aren't pathetic and don't listen to her talk negatively about you. You want to run because it's the natural gut reaction. I taught preschool for 9 years, so I can address what you say to your grandson. First, be truthful with him. Tell him you know that he wants to see mommy. It's actually a good sign that he is attached to her. Don't tell him that he will be seeing her or staying with her unless you are positive it will happen. If you don't know when he will see her again, tell him that. Tell him his mother loves him and wants him to be safe. Tell him that she misses him too and will see him as soon as she can. Tell him he is safe with you. Do fun things with him to help him de-stress. Every child is different, but boys typically love duplos and cars. They like running around at the park. Pounding on play-doh is also a great stress reliever. The more active you can keep him, the less stressed he will be. It would be great if you could get him a photo of his mom or a stuffed animal or blanket from his house to sleep with. Little kids find a lot of comfort in familiar items. One year I taught a girl whose father left her family for a second family that he had on the side in another state (what a dirtbag). He would drop her at school and leave to go to the other state for an undetermined amount of time. I would take her to the classroom, sit in a chair with her in my lap, and just hold her. She sobbed for a few minutes but after a bit would get interested in the other children playing. Once she was playing, she forgot to feel sad. She needed to feel loved and safe first, then she could go back to being a child and explore. You could also take him to the library to find books to read to him. Essentially, ANYTHING you do with him will be a step in the right direction. I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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