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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 679086" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Sooo Tired. Like many of us you are sooo hard on yourself. Quit it.This is sooo true...of each of us.</p><p></p><p>We change when we come here to CD and stop dancing to our kid's tune, and begin to remember that we each have our own tune which we have suppressed, either because we are weary or feel guilty to even have a life.</p><p>OMG, I cannot handle anything these past few years. </p><p></p><p>If you look at my posts in the past few days I refer to myself as fleeing ISIS (my son) wanting to cross the Mediterranean in a raft to escape him. Or alternatively, wanting to surrender. I have said I am in a big green tank, with 3' wide wheels, and guns ready...to defend myself from him. Does this sound like coping?</p><p></p><p>But we are, you and I. The thing that unites us, too, is our self-perception as weak and defenseless. It is not true. It just feels that way. </p><p></p><p>About your grandson. They cry when we leave them at kindergarten, too. And then you peak in through the window, and they are smiling and laughing and playing.</p><p>I agree with pigless. It IS a good sign that he misses his Mommy. That does not mean he needs to go down the drain with her. To watch her be abused. To live in that chaos. To be used as a pawn and bargaining chip. To be disregarded and ignored. to be allowed to witness this kind of degradation, and gradually to believe it is his fault and he does not deserve more. Because if he was a good boy...they would care about him. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter loves her child. That is not enough. She needs <em>to care</em> for him.</p><p></p><p>Everything in the world is not your fault, Sooo Tired. Please get that straight. I wish you would join us on FOO. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, today sounds better than yesterday. Keep posting.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 679086, member: 18958"] Sooo Tired. Like many of us you are sooo hard on yourself. Quit it.This is sooo true...of each of us. We change when we come here to CD and stop dancing to our kid's tune, and begin to remember that we each have our own tune which we have suppressed, either because we are weary or feel guilty to even have a life. OMG, I cannot handle anything these past few years. If you look at my posts in the past few days I refer to myself as fleeing ISIS (my son) wanting to cross the Mediterranean in a raft to escape him. Or alternatively, wanting to surrender. I have said I am in a big green tank, with 3' wide wheels, and guns ready...to defend myself from him. Does this sound like coping? But we are, you and I. The thing that unites us, too, is our self-perception as weak and defenseless. It is not true. It just feels that way. About your grandson. They cry when we leave them at kindergarten, too. And then you peak in through the window, and they are smiling and laughing and playing. I agree with pigless. It IS a good sign that he misses his Mommy. That does not mean he needs to go down the drain with her. To watch her be abused. To live in that chaos. To be used as a pawn and bargaining chip. To be disregarded and ignored. to be allowed to witness this kind of degradation, and gradually to believe it is his fault and he does not deserve more. Because if he was a good boy...they would care about him. Your daughter loves her child. That is not enough. She needs [I]to care[/I] for him. Everything in the world is not your fault, Sooo Tired. Please get that straight. I wish you would join us on FOO. Anyway, today sounds better than yesterday. Keep posting. COPA [/QUOTE]
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