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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 363244" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hey Shari,</p><p></p><p>Let me ask you a question first. Has husband always been a slob or is this new?</p><p></p><p>I only ask because my sister went through this with her husband. Her husband was a mess when they met. His parent's house was a mess. My sister knew.</p><p></p><p>So fast forward like 10 years and two kids later. She blows.</p><p></p><p>Can't take the mess anymore.</p><p></p><p>Works full time and doesn't have time to clean up after him.</p><p></p><p>Not good for the kids.</p><p></p><p>He was shocked.</p><p></p><p>Why? Because she never said anything in all the years they had been together. Now he wasn't a bad guy, he just didn't notice. He was raised in a messy environment where they cleaned only when company came. He was a manly man - not really his job to clean right?</p><p></p><p>When he realized how much it bothered her, even though it hit him from left field, they hired a maid to come once a week.</p><p></p><p>My sister was happy, he was happy, but they also could afford it.</p><p></p><p>My lesson here....if he's always been this way, you can't really blame him (not that it's right to live that way). If it's new behavior, then something might is going on.</p><p></p><p>Listen, marriage is a partnership. If you need him to step up to the plate and help around the house, ask. Don't be afraid to be honest with your partner. You'll see the true caliber of his commitment to you when you speak from the heart.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 363244, member: 805"] Hey Shari, Let me ask you a question first. Has husband always been a slob or is this new? I only ask because my sister went through this with her husband. Her husband was a mess when they met. His parent's house was a mess. My sister knew. So fast forward like 10 years and two kids later. She blows. Can't take the mess anymore. Works full time and doesn't have time to clean up after him. Not good for the kids. He was shocked. Why? Because she never said anything in all the years they had been together. Now he wasn't a bad guy, he just didn't notice. He was raised in a messy environment where they cleaned only when company came. He was a manly man - not really his job to clean right? When he realized how much it bothered her, even though it hit him from left field, they hired a maid to come once a week. My sister was happy, he was happy, but they also could afford it. My lesson here....if he's always been this way, you can't really blame him (not that it's right to live that way). If it's new behavior, then something might is going on. Listen, marriage is a partnership. If you need him to step up to the plate and help around the house, ask. Don't be afraid to be honest with your partner. You'll see the true caliber of his commitment to you when you speak from the heart. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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