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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 363306" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I had this conversation with my husband. I started the conversation outside of the house - it was a respite weekend for the tweedles. We discussed the "home front" & how I couldn't let people in because of the nonstop tweedle mess & husband just joining in for giggles. by the way, he wasn't the worst slob before I married him - just your basic general male.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">We concluded the common areas of the house & our bedroom would be clean & he would help & help the tweedles with chores assigned along with me. His office was off limits & had a sign I made "Enter at Your Own Risk" on the door. Same with the tweedles rooms. So it was the upstairs that was off limits to visitors (kind of tough with company because we frequently could have used the 2nd bathroom.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">After wm was placed into a group home husband started taking more pride but hung onto every little thing. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Suffice it to say when husband died & I needed to remodel so I could live here with-o physical help three 30 yard dumpsters of garbage from upstairs especially & the rest of the house was "cleaned out" (while I was paying for those dumpsters). You are all welcome to come visit. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Shari, I had to place my priorities in line.....I was okay with the entry & common areas being livable so visitors could enter with-o my being embarassed. It is always a work in progress....</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Now kt & I have assigned end of day "trouble" spots that we take care of before bed. kt takes care of the recycling & taking out the garbage. I check for any dishes hanging out in the living room or my art studio. I wipe down counters while kt sweeps the kitchen floor.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I'll put the coffee on.... </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 363306, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]I had this conversation with my husband. I started the conversation outside of the house - it was a respite weekend for the tweedles. We discussed the "home front" & how I couldn't let people in because of the nonstop tweedle mess & husband just joining in for giggles. by the way, he wasn't the worst slob before I married him - just your basic general male. We concluded the common areas of the house & our bedroom would be clean & he would help & help the tweedles with chores assigned along with me. His office was off limits & had a sign I made "Enter at Your Own Risk" on the door. Same with the tweedles rooms. So it was the upstairs that was off limits to visitors (kind of tough with company because we frequently could have used the 2nd bathroom. After wm was placed into a group home husband started taking more pride but hung onto every little thing. Suffice it to say when husband died & I needed to remodel so I could live here with-o physical help three 30 yard dumpsters of garbage from upstairs especially & the rest of the house was "cleaned out" (while I was paying for those dumpsters). You are all welcome to come visit. Shari, I had to place my priorities in line.....I was okay with the entry & common areas being livable so visitors could enter with-o my being embarassed. It is always a work in progress.... Now kt & I have assigned end of day "trouble" spots that we take care of before bed. kt takes care of the recycling & taking out the garbage. I check for any dishes hanging out in the living room or my art studio. I wipe down counters while kt sweeps the kitchen floor. I'll put the coffee on.... [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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