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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 363506" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I have a few random photos of some of the really disgusting stuff, Susie, I could send them to you...like the 5ft vanity counter in the bathroom covered in little tiny hairs from when he trims his beard. And we're talking covered...'unable to put a finger down without getting hair on it' covered....and anything on the counter was covered, also. </p><p> </p><p>I was out of town Monday night. Just before I left, I started another load of laundry, which meant I left one load on the couch, not folded. I got home last night and its on the floor. He did not feed the dogs, so I fed them when I got home, and one pottied on the floor in the night (they usually eat much earlier). He cleaned it up this morning, but he opened the bedroom door and turned on the light so I'd be sure to see him do it (he's on summer hours at work, so he gets up an hour earlier now - it is a bit amazing he cleaned it up tho, that NEVER happens, even when its his dog).</p><p> </p><p>We are going out of town this weekend trail riding and camping. I engineered a modification to the horse trailer that will allow us all to sleep in it, and he helped me start it a week ago. I told him I wanted to finish it last night, as I will have to clean up the trailer and get it packed by Thur night. What did he do? He went and bought his dad a $150 tractor umbrella yesterday after work, and went out to their house and assembled it and didn't come home til 930. His reason? His dad has to stay out of the sun and hay season is coming up. OK...great. But its pouring down rain, and is supposed to every day for the next 5 days! He's not going to be cutting hay, and we need the trailer ready by 5pm Friday if we're goiing on this outing that he wants to go on...</p><p> </p><p>I think I'm going to make him clean it and pack it (and its metal shavings we have to clean up....its not like just dirt that we can get by without cleaning).</p><p> </p><p>I don't think he's depressed. He got the mule and he's all about riding now. I think he just doesn't like housework, and he's gotten comfortable that I'll be around and now thinks he doesn't really have to do it. </p><p> </p><p>And he's a creator, not a maintainer. He'll spend all day putting some cool contraption or funky lights he's come up with on a vehicle. He's been driving the "new" car since November and has yet to change the oil... "maintaining" isn't fun.</p><p> </p><p>Welcome to adulthood, honey. How many cars is it gonna take before you realize, fun or not, you HAVE to maintain them? You're on number 3. (not evem counting lawnmowers and roofs - tho I haven't let the roof go long enuf to fall in yet...that seems a little too drastic)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 363506, member: 1848"] I have a few random photos of some of the really disgusting stuff, Susie, I could send them to you...like the 5ft vanity counter in the bathroom covered in little tiny hairs from when he trims his beard. And we're talking covered...'unable to put a finger down without getting hair on it' covered....and anything on the counter was covered, also. I was out of town Monday night. Just before I left, I started another load of laundry, which meant I left one load on the couch, not folded. I got home last night and its on the floor. He did not feed the dogs, so I fed them when I got home, and one pottied on the floor in the night (they usually eat much earlier). He cleaned it up this morning, but he opened the bedroom door and turned on the light so I'd be sure to see him do it (he's on summer hours at work, so he gets up an hour earlier now - it is a bit amazing he cleaned it up tho, that NEVER happens, even when its his dog). We are going out of town this weekend trail riding and camping. I engineered a modification to the horse trailer that will allow us all to sleep in it, and he helped me start it a week ago. I told him I wanted to finish it last night, as I will have to clean up the trailer and get it packed by Thur night. What did he do? He went and bought his dad a $150 tractor umbrella yesterday after work, and went out to their house and assembled it and didn't come home til 930. His reason? His dad has to stay out of the sun and hay season is coming up. OK...great. But its pouring down rain, and is supposed to every day for the next 5 days! He's not going to be cutting hay, and we need the trailer ready by 5pm Friday if we're goiing on this outing that he wants to go on... I think I'm going to make him clean it and pack it (and its metal shavings we have to clean up....its not like just dirt that we can get by without cleaning). I don't think he's depressed. He got the mule and he's all about riding now. I think he just doesn't like housework, and he's gotten comfortable that I'll be around and now thinks he doesn't really have to do it. And he's a creator, not a maintainer. He'll spend all day putting some cool contraption or funky lights he's come up with on a vehicle. He's been driving the "new" car since November and has yet to change the oil... "maintaining" isn't fun. Welcome to adulthood, honey. How many cars is it gonna take before you realize, fun or not, you HAVE to maintain them? You're on number 3. (not evem counting lawnmowers and roofs - tho I haven't let the roof go long enuf to fall in yet...that seems a little too drastic) [/QUOTE]
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