So, I really need some help figuring out how to process things in life without reacting to the past. The only way I can explain it is to compare it to a physical injury. I feel like I have been severely burned and when someone is poking me in the same spot as the burn - I scream. I don't want to scream, but it hurts, and I am afraid they are going to burn me again, and I want to run or strangle them. The problem is is that this is affecting my entire life at this point it seems. I feel like 70% of my body has been burned, and life is constantly threatening to burn me again. If it is a guy, I am triggered by all of my failed and hurtful past relationships. If it is work I am triggered by my past failures. If it is friendships, I am triggered by Hs death. If it is a something to do with Matt then I am triggered by everything and anything. If it is my parents.........well......you get the point. It seems that I spend most of my time lately in a defense mode. Lately I feel like my enormous whirlpool of issues has come together and solidified. I used to feel like they were in the past, and separate, and I had control over whether or not they surfaced - but given the stress of the last 2 months - everything has collided. Work, Matt, friendships, relationships.........and I walk around feeling completely teary and spacey in order to just keep all of this at an arm's length enough to function. So what advice do you guys have? What do you do to quell these types of triggers? How do you remain peaceful, despite feeling like you want to strangle someone when they duplicate a past life issues? How do you completely re-shift your paradigm so that life is not like living in a war zone?