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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 490710" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>We have been through pure hell all because my difficult child who was repeatedly molested by her 14/15 year old cousin over a two year period when she was 4 and 5. We had no idea. Guilt-heck yes! There were no signs until age 13. We didn't find out until we placed her in the 1st residential treatment at age 14. She had also been gang raped. Repeated sexual abuse is common with victoms. Trauma causes so many complicated issues. The behaviors mimick many disorders and the things they do and say are so hard to sort out. It just becomes part of their being, so much so they can't sort through things without major help. I don't have advise about the report and your husband, no experience. I can tell you that when my daughter's PTSD was at its worst she disassociated and tried to take back her reports of sex abuse because she hurt so badly.</p><p></p><p>We have tried 2 residential settings that spanned 2 years. Many phospital stays as well. Much individual and family counseling. Sports, dancing, etc. She recieved very specific skills in the last DBT residential setting. We have had little progress until very recently. She is home and we have told her she isn't going to be sent away again unless she gets herself into legal trouble.(This was a hard decision as she was running away for days to who knows where). She has been at the rape crisis center and recieving EMDR therapy. She now has a job, has her GED (she would be a junior-so she is finished early-just couldn't handle school). She feels more in control of herself than she ever has. She is not out of the woods and trouble seems to court her, but we are seeing daylight for the first time in years.</p><p></p><p>Sex abuse can be extremely damaging to any child but esp. to those with a more sensitive nature or predisposition to mental illness. Our daughter has reacted in extreme ways, not in the same ways as your daughter, but I have read about all the possibilities-there are soo many. I would advise that you find someone who specializes in this kind of abuse. Many say they are trained to do it, few really know what they are doing. We have seen that even in the residential settings where almost all the girls had been abused sexually in some way. EMDR isn't proven in children but it is being used. It seems to have helped our daughter. We found it for cheap (our insurance called it experimental even though it is one of a few approved treatments for PTSD) at the rape crisis center. Do you have a place there that you could inquire about good childhood sex abuse counseling? ((Hugs)) to you and prayers. Keep your eyes and heart wide open.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 490710, member: 11001"] We have been through pure hell all because my difficult child who was repeatedly molested by her 14/15 year old cousin over a two year period when she was 4 and 5. We had no idea. Guilt-heck yes! There were no signs until age 13. We didn't find out until we placed her in the 1st residential treatment at age 14. She had also been gang raped. Repeated sexual abuse is common with victoms. Trauma causes so many complicated issues. The behaviors mimick many disorders and the things they do and say are so hard to sort out. It just becomes part of their being, so much so they can't sort through things without major help. I don't have advise about the report and your husband, no experience. I can tell you that when my daughter's PTSD was at its worst she disassociated and tried to take back her reports of sex abuse because she hurt so badly. We have tried 2 residential settings that spanned 2 years. Many phospital stays as well. Much individual and family counseling. Sports, dancing, etc. She recieved very specific skills in the last DBT residential setting. We have had little progress until very recently. She is home and we have told her she isn't going to be sent away again unless she gets herself into legal trouble.(This was a hard decision as she was running away for days to who knows where). She has been at the rape crisis center and recieving EMDR therapy. She now has a job, has her GED (she would be a junior-so she is finished early-just couldn't handle school). She feels more in control of herself than she ever has. She is not out of the woods and trouble seems to court her, but we are seeing daylight for the first time in years. Sex abuse can be extremely damaging to any child but esp. to those with a more sensitive nature or predisposition to mental illness. Our daughter has reacted in extreme ways, not in the same ways as your daughter, but I have read about all the possibilities-there are soo many. I would advise that you find someone who specializes in this kind of abuse. Many say they are trained to do it, few really know what they are doing. We have seen that even in the residential settings where almost all the girls had been abused sexually in some way. EMDR isn't proven in children but it is being used. It seems to have helped our daughter. We found it for cheap (our insurance called it experimental even though it is one of a few approved treatments for PTSD) at the rape crisis center. Do you have a place there that you could inquire about good childhood sex abuse counseling? ((Hugs)) to you and prayers. Keep your eyes and heart wide open. [/QUOTE]
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