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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 646555" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Sorry for your need to join us here but glad you have an outlet for your feelings and emotions. </p><p>I think you should follow through on what you said, not paying the cell phone or insurance anymore. How is she getting gas money? If you have been giving it to her that needs to stop as well. (If you can afford it give her a monthly bus pass) Drinking, going out partying and whatever drugs she may be using are just ways she may be using to self medicate. After you follow through with insurance/cell, perhaps it is time to take another step (add a new boundary) and insist that if she wants to stay at home she must be medication compliant. You might also set down some basic household rules such as keeping her room clean, helping out with chores and no visitors in the house when you are not home. Take away her key if you must do so - even locking her out during your work hours so you don't experience the theft some many of the members here have experienced. </p><p>She needs to grow up and you are doing her no favors allowing her depression (and your feelings about it) to keep her locked in childhood. </p><p>You and your husband absolutely are entitled at this time in your life to be free of the problems of your children. Take whatever steps you feel comfortable with to start ushering your daughter out of your home and on with her own life. Trust me, you will be doing everyone a favor in the long run.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 646555, member: 18366"] Sorry for your need to join us here but glad you have an outlet for your feelings and emotions. I think you should follow through on what you said, not paying the cell phone or insurance anymore. How is she getting gas money? If you have been giving it to her that needs to stop as well. (If you can afford it give her a monthly bus pass) Drinking, going out partying and whatever drugs she may be using are just ways she may be using to self medicate. After you follow through with insurance/cell, perhaps it is time to take another step (add a new boundary) and insist that if she wants to stay at home she must be medication compliant. You might also set down some basic household rules such as keeping her room clean, helping out with chores and no visitors in the house when you are not home. Take away her key if you must do so - even locking her out during your work hours so you don't experience the theft some many of the members here have experienced. She needs to grow up and you are doing her no favors allowing her depression (and your feelings about it) to keep her locked in childhood. You and your husband absolutely are entitled at this time in your life to be free of the problems of your children. Take whatever steps you feel comfortable with to start ushering your daughter out of your home and on with her own life. Trust me, you will be doing everyone a favor in the long run. [/QUOTE]
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