Steely
Active Member
Well, I am not really sure what to ask, but I know I need advice, guidance, or suggestions.
As I mentioned in another post or 2 Matt has started seeing a counselor - finally. His anxiety, and PTSD are so severe that he is now suicidal and almost completely home bound. However, this counselor is amazing, and has really just gotten to the root of his issues in only several sessions. Matt loves her - but I think the fact that he now feels so exposed, honest, and open about his emotions have left him even more volatile, moody, and vulnerable. In a nutshell having this sudden breakthrough of sorts, has left him even more of a mess.
He doesn't have any friends, except one that lives in Idaho, and me. So lately he calls me all of the time melting down. Not just mad, but crying; hysterical, and dramatically over the slightest things. Truthfully this is should of what have happened in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he had people there to process with 24/7....but it is happening now....when there is really no one to talk to. (And there is no way he would go to phosph).
So what can or should I do? I know she is giving him tools to address these overwhelming feelings....so when he calls hysterical, do I say "use the tools D. gave you?" That seems too motherly, and besides when I push things, he eventually rejects them. Or do I just listen non-judgmentally and without comment? Or do I give it a time limit? I do suggest that he call her, but truthfully if he called every time he wanted to talk he would be calling her twice a day - which won't work. Or does he just need to manage his own feelings without always running to me - and if that is the case - how do I tell him that?
I feel really stuck, and overwhelmed myself. His pain is so palpable and deep he reminds of a 6'3 baby bird. I am having a very hard time knowing what to say or what to do.
Thoughts?
As I mentioned in another post or 2 Matt has started seeing a counselor - finally. His anxiety, and PTSD are so severe that he is now suicidal and almost completely home bound. However, this counselor is amazing, and has really just gotten to the root of his issues in only several sessions. Matt loves her - but I think the fact that he now feels so exposed, honest, and open about his emotions have left him even more volatile, moody, and vulnerable. In a nutshell having this sudden breakthrough of sorts, has left him even more of a mess.
He doesn't have any friends, except one that lives in Idaho, and me. So lately he calls me all of the time melting down. Not just mad, but crying; hysterical, and dramatically over the slightest things. Truthfully this is should of what have happened in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he had people there to process with 24/7....but it is happening now....when there is really no one to talk to. (And there is no way he would go to phosph).
So what can or should I do? I know she is giving him tools to address these overwhelming feelings....so when he calls hysterical, do I say "use the tools D. gave you?" That seems too motherly, and besides when I push things, he eventually rejects them. Or do I just listen non-judgmentally and without comment? Or do I give it a time limit? I do suggest that he call her, but truthfully if he called every time he wanted to talk he would be calling her twice a day - which won't work. Or does he just need to manage his own feelings without always running to me - and if that is the case - how do I tell him that?
I feel really stuck, and overwhelmed myself. His pain is so palpable and deep he reminds of a 6'3 baby bird. I am having a very hard time knowing what to say or what to do.
Thoughts?