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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 531592" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I was both disabled nd cheap years before I had kids. Ao I will explan the various things she wants.</p><p></p><p>Skip the new stroller for a while. Most new moms don't hsve the tim or energy to use them for several months. What sounds/looks great before you have s baby is NOT what you want/need/like after the baby comes. Except for the wipe warmers, which are NOT a luxury item but a necessity. I have an aunt who was a PE teacher, ran a swimming pool for decades before she had a child, and was seriously into fitness esp running. After her first kid was born she tried jogging wth him. Twice. Never again. It was NOT fun and was very hard to fit in with all the other stuff she had to do. Like eating and attempting to sleep. Even when the 2nd kid was born the jogging stroller never came out of the basement. </p><p></p><p>IF they live on a gravel road and do not have a vehicle, then the 3 wheel stroller is a necessity. But ONLY if walking is the ONLY way they can get around. </p><p></p><p>The car seat debate. We used the kind with the base when the kids were babies. We had the kind that lasts until they are toddlers and can be turned around for older kids. It was miserable. Every time you have to get the kid out of the car, if they are in the kind that stays in the car, they wake up. If they are in the kind that has a base and the base stays in the car? The kid stays asleep 90% of the time. Wiz woke at everything and he stayed asleep even with the way husband bounced it around to get it to be in the right place in the base (idiot husband refused to use his eyes to line it up, just sort of yanked it around like an idiot. It is why the stay asleep rate was only 90% with Wiz. </p><p></p><p>If the infant is in the kind with the base taht goes into a shopping cart or stroller, you just lift it out and onto the stroller or cart, then you don't have to carry them. If you have the convertible seat that stays in the car, what do you put the baby in when you go to the store? HArd to take a stroller into the grocery if you need much. Hard to carry an infant and shop if you have to push a cart. Sure some stores have the carts wth baby seats on them, but you MUST clean those before you put a kid in them and that is hard to do one handed. Those things are NASTY and in most stores the straps don't work or are so gross that it is a wonder that kids don't end up with mrsa or something from them. I used to know a guy who worked for the health dept and eh said those infant seats on shopping carts are about the most germy and disgusting things tht anyone can get near - he would rther his kids drink from a toilet in a public restroom than sit in one. And he was NOT a germophobe by any means. He ate at places that made me shudder and he KNEW what nasties lived in their kitchens. </p><p></p><p>One thing that no one tells you about the car seat with a base is that it is handy inside because it can be a baby seat. Jess would not have survived with-o hers. She had allergies and post-nasal drip tht was and still is constant. She could not breathe while laying down for the first six months or so. This means that she could not sleep in a crib. We tried. We raised the end of it several times, just like the doctor said. She just rolled to where her head was down and her feet were up and then couldn't breathe. She actually turned blue once and terrified us. So she slept in her car seat because it kept her head raised. The back of her head flattened a little but it did not cause any damage to her brain and was a small price to pay to have her breathe all night every night. We had one of the first models that went into a stroller and it was a total lifesaver. Again, if the baby was asleep, the baby stayed asleep but if the baby was taken out of the carseat to be put into a stroller, the child woke up. Every time. </p><p></p><p>Having the child stay asleep might or might not sound important. Until the child hits the stage where they don't feel good or won't sleep unless they are in the car. You get them to sleep on a drive, head home, and can either keep them in the car or take them otu of the carseat and wake them up, needing to take them for another drive to get them back to sleep. with the seat that goes into a base, you can get the seat OUT with-o waking up the child.</p><p></p><p>The seat with the base is also far more flexible if another parent is picking up the child after school, or a grandparent is. the base can stay in one car and the seat can be fastened into another car with-o the base. So you don't need several of the big heavy convertible seats or to lug the big heavy convertible seat around. The convertible seats are much harder to carry around, harder to fasten into the car safely, and many daycares don't want you to leave them there during the day because they take up so much room. the carseat with the base can be used as an infant seat in the daycare so it is more welcome. Or that is what we experienced and what friends of mine here experience even now.</p><p></p><p>As for the pretty new crib, that is a nice dream. If Dude and his lady want that, then they need to buy it. esp with you being in such hard times. It is easy to get a used crib off craigslist or ebay. Just make sure the bars are close enough together that a baby bottle won't go through them. A new crib is a luxury not a necessity. A new mattress is far better for the baby as they don't sleep in just one place and they need the spinal support for healthy development. They can contact places like Birthright and other pro-parenting groups for TONS of free/ultra cheap baby supplies.</p><p></p><p>For free diapers/formula, every baby formula company has a program that sends new moms a case or so of free formula. Or they do here. Just look up their websites. Not so sure about diapers, but they do have tons of coupons.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 531592, member: 1233"] I was both disabled nd cheap years before I had kids. Ao I will explan the various things she wants. Skip the new stroller for a while. Most new moms don't hsve the tim or energy to use them for several months. What sounds/looks great before you have s baby is NOT what you want/need/like after the baby comes. Except for the wipe warmers, which are NOT a luxury item but a necessity. I have an aunt who was a PE teacher, ran a swimming pool for decades before she had a child, and was seriously into fitness esp running. After her first kid was born she tried jogging wth him. Twice. Never again. It was NOT fun and was very hard to fit in with all the other stuff she had to do. Like eating and attempting to sleep. Even when the 2nd kid was born the jogging stroller never came out of the basement. IF they live on a gravel road and do not have a vehicle, then the 3 wheel stroller is a necessity. But ONLY if walking is the ONLY way they can get around. The car seat debate. We used the kind with the base when the kids were babies. We had the kind that lasts until they are toddlers and can be turned around for older kids. It was miserable. Every time you have to get the kid out of the car, if they are in the kind that stays in the car, they wake up. If they are in the kind that has a base and the base stays in the car? The kid stays asleep 90% of the time. Wiz woke at everything and he stayed asleep even with the way husband bounced it around to get it to be in the right place in the base (idiot husband refused to use his eyes to line it up, just sort of yanked it around like an idiot. It is why the stay asleep rate was only 90% with Wiz. If the infant is in the kind with the base taht goes into a shopping cart or stroller, you just lift it out and onto the stroller or cart, then you don't have to carry them. If you have the convertible seat that stays in the car, what do you put the baby in when you go to the store? HArd to take a stroller into the grocery if you need much. Hard to carry an infant and shop if you have to push a cart. Sure some stores have the carts wth baby seats on them, but you MUST clean those before you put a kid in them and that is hard to do one handed. Those things are NASTY and in most stores the straps don't work or are so gross that it is a wonder that kids don't end up with mrsa or something from them. I used to know a guy who worked for the health dept and eh said those infant seats on shopping carts are about the most germy and disgusting things tht anyone can get near - he would rther his kids drink from a toilet in a public restroom than sit in one. And he was NOT a germophobe by any means. He ate at places that made me shudder and he KNEW what nasties lived in their kitchens. One thing that no one tells you about the car seat with a base is that it is handy inside because it can be a baby seat. Jess would not have survived with-o hers. She had allergies and post-nasal drip tht was and still is constant. She could not breathe while laying down for the first six months or so. This means that she could not sleep in a crib. We tried. We raised the end of it several times, just like the doctor said. She just rolled to where her head was down and her feet were up and then couldn't breathe. She actually turned blue once and terrified us. So she slept in her car seat because it kept her head raised. The back of her head flattened a little but it did not cause any damage to her brain and was a small price to pay to have her breathe all night every night. We had one of the first models that went into a stroller and it was a total lifesaver. Again, if the baby was asleep, the baby stayed asleep but if the baby was taken out of the carseat to be put into a stroller, the child woke up. Every time. Having the child stay asleep might or might not sound important. Until the child hits the stage where they don't feel good or won't sleep unless they are in the car. You get them to sleep on a drive, head home, and can either keep them in the car or take them otu of the carseat and wake them up, needing to take them for another drive to get them back to sleep. with the seat that goes into a base, you can get the seat OUT with-o waking up the child. The seat with the base is also far more flexible if another parent is picking up the child after school, or a grandparent is. the base can stay in one car and the seat can be fastened into another car with-o the base. So you don't need several of the big heavy convertible seats or to lug the big heavy convertible seat around. The convertible seats are much harder to carry around, harder to fasten into the car safely, and many daycares don't want you to leave them there during the day because they take up so much room. the carseat with the base can be used as an infant seat in the daycare so it is more welcome. Or that is what we experienced and what friends of mine here experience even now. As for the pretty new crib, that is a nice dream. If Dude and his lady want that, then they need to buy it. esp with you being in such hard times. It is easy to get a used crib off craigslist or ebay. Just make sure the bars are close enough together that a baby bottle won't go through them. A new crib is a luxury not a necessity. A new mattress is far better for the baby as they don't sleep in just one place and they need the spinal support for healthy development. They can contact places like Birthright and other pro-parenting groups for TONS of free/ultra cheap baby supplies. For free diapers/formula, every baby formula company has a program that sends new moms a case or so of free formula. Or they do here. Just look up their websites. Not so sure about diapers, but they do have tons of coupons. [/QUOTE]
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