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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 398233" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>I really like these options. I've lost my Father, but he died penniless and my sister and I had to pay for his cremation and other expenses. After seeing what a very good friend is currently going through with the loss of her father, (he passed suddenly and had a substantial estate and her brother in law is the Trustee and has locked my friend out of everything after cleaning out the house and taking the brand new car he paid cash for three days before he passed. Now, all communication is through lawyers and a family has been blown apart. There were NEVER any problems until her Father's passing), I called my sister and told her I wanted have at least an intial plan of what we would do when our Mom passes. I could sense the uncomfortableness over the phone, but I'm very direct and just wanted a meeting of the minds at what we would do those first weeks. I told my Mom to make sure she lists who gets what of her household items and heirlooms so that there is no confusion and to make a will. </p><p> </p><p>It's true, when there is a death and money is involved, it seems to activate the greed gene in some people. But, if your Dad promised those things to you and Tony, I'm sure he would want you to have them. From my perspective, it is better to ask about them now then wait. You are is child and he loved you. Yes, she is his widow, but you had a loss too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 398233, member: 831"] I really like these options. I've lost my Father, but he died penniless and my sister and I had to pay for his cremation and other expenses. After seeing what a very good friend is currently going through with the loss of her father, (he passed suddenly and had a substantial estate and her brother in law is the Trustee and has locked my friend out of everything after cleaning out the house and taking the brand new car he paid cash for three days before he passed. Now, all communication is through lawyers and a family has been blown apart. There were NEVER any problems until her Father's passing), I called my sister and told her I wanted have at least an intial plan of what we would do when our Mom passes. I could sense the uncomfortableness over the phone, but I'm very direct and just wanted a meeting of the minds at what we would do those first weeks. I told my Mom to make sure she lists who gets what of her household items and heirlooms so that there is no confusion and to make a will. It's true, when there is a death and money is involved, it seems to activate the greed gene in some people. But, if your Dad promised those things to you and Tony, I'm sure he would want you to have them. From my perspective, it is better to ask about them now then wait. You are is child and he loved you. Yes, she is his widow, but you had a loss too. [/QUOTE]
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