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I need help talking to and setting limits with my son. Ongoing. Thanks.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 663092" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think u need to value your relationship with m as well as you son and yourself.</p><p>As a compromise for food why not find out where the homeless can eat and tell him. Then it's on him to choose to eat or not eat but he has food if he wants it. I know salvation armies feed the homeless. You don't have to actually give him food to help him out. Likely he already know where to eat but is playing with your soft heart.</p><p>Do you feel he is trying to get m so angry that he leaves? These types of adult kids don't like SO who try to help their parent stand strong against them.</p><p>His hepatitis b is going to be affected by his unwillingness to treat himself. You can't force him to take his health seriously. It's sad and scary but he is of legal age where he does it himself or nobody can.</p><p>I am a big fan of less is more in engaging argumentative people. I learned it late in life. Talking to contrary people just gives them a platform to be more oppositional and ultimately abusive. They don't listen or engage properly. They become combative.</p><p>I think moving helps. The farther u are the less you can rescue. I wouldn't even give him your address. He can call you and that is more than enough. Every time you talk to him he breaks your heart.</p><p>Be good to yourself today. Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 663092, member: 1550"] I think u need to value your relationship with m as well as you son and yourself. As a compromise for food why not find out where the homeless can eat and tell him. Then it's on him to choose to eat or not eat but he has food if he wants it. I know salvation armies feed the homeless. You don't have to actually give him food to help him out. Likely he already know where to eat but is playing with your soft heart. Do you feel he is trying to get m so angry that he leaves? These types of adult kids don't like SO who try to help their parent stand strong against them. His hepatitis b is going to be affected by his unwillingness to treat himself. You can't force him to take his health seriously. It's sad and scary but he is of legal age where he does it himself or nobody can. I am a big fan of less is more in engaging argumentative people. I learned it late in life. Talking to contrary people just gives them a platform to be more oppositional and ultimately abusive. They don't listen or engage properly. They become combative. I think moving helps. The farther u are the less you can rescue. I wouldn't even give him your address. He can call you and that is more than enough. Every time you talk to him he breaks your heart. Be good to yourself today. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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