Hi hmom, I am so sorry for your troubles, it hurts when our adult children are not doing well
As a chronic depressive myself, it would mean the world to me just to know my mother cared and didn't judge. (Unfortunately, I'm estranged from my mother.) Keep loving your boy -- that's something to steady and soothe him while he wages his battle with the demon illness. Meanwhile, if you can create a bio here and tell us more about yourself and your son, you'll find lots of people who have dealt with similar challenges and want to help.
Agree whole heartedly.
My son is 22yrs old. He was molested from age 12-16. I didnt find out till i took him for counseling and he told the counselor. I feel responsible because it was my brother. My brother had just got out of prison and i let him stay with us.
It is not your fault. It is your brothers fault. How could you have known? Pedophiles are very, very good at fooling people.
So he is really depressed. He does live with me. I got him a good job at my place of employment, so he is working. He is an alcoholic. Not full blown. He usually dont start drinking till late in evening. He smokes marijuana. And i know he has done methamphetamin.
hmom, my daughter is a meth user. It is very bad stuff. Extreme highs and extreme lows.
I know the worry and fears. Drug use and alcohol will not help him, it is a temporary fix. As parents of adult children, we have no control over the decisions they make. My oldest is very depressed too, we have encouraged her to seek help, but her answer is always "I am not ready". I think that means she is not ready to give up her addiction.
That said, I have had to let go of the worry and guilt that somehow I have caused this. It is very destructive. I have not given up hope, just the idea that I am not the one to help/enable her. I have given her to God and trusted that He will take care of her. There are many services out there for our d cs.
In the mean time there is you. You have value and worth. Have you sought counseling for yourself? All of this crying can be exhausting I know, been there and still go there on occasion.
You are not alone hmom. Big, long hugs to you. (((((((HUGS)))))))
leafy