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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 390545" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Sweetheart... something you mentioned stuck out for me - "I don't know what I did".</p><p> </p><p>YOU didn't.</p><p> </p><p>Your husband needs to understand that YOU cannot do it all yourself. And if I might make a suggestion? Have the school start calling him. He can't keep calling? OK... This is his child, too, right? So don't ask him to call you. Just have the school contact him. Not you.</p><p> </p><p>You, my dear, need a break. Some respite, somehow. I know how you feel - maybe not exactly, but the overwhelmed part for sure - and you need to take care of you. He wants to live at girlfriend's? What do HER parents think? (Hopefully, they'll shoot him down.) He doesn't know how to do his schoolwork? Um - they're teaching him, he's falling asleep in class. When he starts paying attention, you'll start helping him - is what I told Onyxx and Jett - and they discovered they really don't need much help.</p><p> </p><p>One thing I found really helped was if he said I was yelling, I would just reply in a monotone - not "whatever you want" but "if that's what you want to do". Over and over. Didn't make me feel any better exactly, but Onyxx left me alone - she was trying to get a reaction, make it MY fault - and I wouldn't allow that to happen.</p><p> </p><p>Otherwise, I have lots and lots of hugs coming your way. 'Cause it ain't easy - and you sound pretty overwhelmed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 390545, member: 6705"] Sweetheart... something you mentioned stuck out for me - "I don't know what I did". YOU didn't. Your husband needs to understand that YOU cannot do it all yourself. And if I might make a suggestion? Have the school start calling him. He can't keep calling? OK... This is his child, too, right? So don't ask him to call you. Just have the school contact him. Not you. You, my dear, need a break. Some respite, somehow. I know how you feel - maybe not exactly, but the overwhelmed part for sure - and you need to take care of you. He wants to live at girlfriend's? What do HER parents think? (Hopefully, they'll shoot him down.) He doesn't know how to do his schoolwork? Um - they're teaching him, he's falling asleep in class. When he starts paying attention, you'll start helping him - is what I told Onyxx and Jett - and they discovered they really don't need much help. One thing I found really helped was if he said I was yelling, I would just reply in a monotone - not "whatever you want" but "if that's what you want to do". Over and over. Didn't make me feel any better exactly, but Onyxx left me alone - she was trying to get a reaction, make it MY fault - and I wouldn't allow that to happen. Otherwise, I have lots and lots of hugs coming your way. 'Cause it ain't easy - and you sound pretty overwhelmed. [/QUOTE]
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