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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 12451" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>We have had this discussion over and over. The ONLY thing your son will qualify for is SED or ADHD. Both have negative connotations in society. However, dropping out of h.s. or being expelled has very negative connotations (and potential bad effects), too.</p><p></p><p>Special Education is imperfect and not a cure-all but it does offer significant legal protection to a boy of your son's age in a high school. My son was SED--and I was repeatedly "offered" Learning Disability (LD) because it is supposedly less stigmatizing. Recently, ex-difficult child told me how upsetting it was to hear teachers say he was Learning Disability (LD) because he then had something else to worry about himself being "wrong or defective." He is neither Learning Disability (LD) nor ADHD--just differently motivated and not into school achievement in certain subjects. As you may have noticed from my signature, his SED background did not stop the Juilliard School (and two other conservatories) from accepting him. In fact, SED might not "stick" well enough! TWICE ex-difficult child asked for accommodation under a 504 due to major depression (in remission.) Twice Juilliard found him to be just fine--and yes, the reason he wanted a 504 was to get a single room. So in order for me to worry about negative effects a label will have 7 or 8 years after the fact (he was "labelled" at 11 and is now 19), you have to HAVE A LIFE to be stigmatized. Since this was very much in question, I am glad I stuck with his correct label and got him help for what he had, not for what might have been less stigmatizing to someone else. </p><p></p><p>Do NOT talk to anyone from the SD on the phone. They will just lie some more. Put it all in writing and SEND IT CERTIFIED. If you don't, it will "get lost." You have to have proof that you are requesting the IEE at public expense.</p><p></p><p>Your son is 14 and the school is turning him loose without your knowledge at 1:15??? I would check your state education code for minimum hours of school attendance. YOU did not authorize this. What if they start letting him go at 11:15 without telling you? These same people will then criticize your failure to supervise your child.</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 12451, member: 284"] We have had this discussion over and over. The ONLY thing your son will qualify for is SED or ADHD. Both have negative connotations in society. However, dropping out of h.s. or being expelled has very negative connotations (and potential bad effects), too. Special Education is imperfect and not a cure-all but it does offer significant legal protection to a boy of your son's age in a high school. My son was SED--and I was repeatedly "offered" Learning Disability (LD) because it is supposedly less stigmatizing. Recently, ex-difficult child told me how upsetting it was to hear teachers say he was Learning Disability (LD) because he then had something else to worry about himself being "wrong or defective." He is neither Learning Disability (LD) nor ADHD--just differently motivated and not into school achievement in certain subjects. As you may have noticed from my signature, his SED background did not stop the Juilliard School (and two other conservatories) from accepting him. In fact, SED might not "stick" well enough! TWICE ex-difficult child asked for accommodation under a 504 due to major depression (in remission.) Twice Juilliard found him to be just fine--and yes, the reason he wanted a 504 was to get a single room. So in order for me to worry about negative effects a label will have 7 or 8 years after the fact (he was "labelled" at 11 and is now 19), you have to HAVE A LIFE to be stigmatized. Since this was very much in question, I am glad I stuck with his correct label and got him help for what he had, not for what might have been less stigmatizing to someone else. Do NOT talk to anyone from the SD on the phone. They will just lie some more. Put it all in writing and SEND IT CERTIFIED. If you don't, it will "get lost." You have to have proof that you are requesting the IEE at public expense. Your son is 14 and the school is turning him loose without your knowledge at 1:15??? I would check your state education code for minimum hours of school attendance. YOU did not authorize this. What if they start letting him go at 11:15 without telling you? These same people will then criticize your failure to supervise your child. Martie [/QUOTE]
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