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<blockquote data-quote="FallingIn" data-source="post: 759746" data-attributes="member: 26369"><p>Thank you for all the great advice. I know I am part of the problem, enabling and such. So here I am enabling once again. </p><p>He finally contacted me again and admitted he can't make it on his own without us. His sisters still have him blocked on their phones, so he is only in contact with me. </p><p>When he was discharged from hospital, he went to COVID hotel to finish his isolation. From there he spent a few days at my house until I found him an Airbnb. He's been there and although very lonely (no friends, no job, etc), he's been doing ok. He also has no money so can't by liquor. But Airbnb is expensive. So I am considering paying for one more month. If he doesn't find housing by then, I am thinking of letting him back home with following conditions:</p><p>Absolutely no drinking.</p><p>Attend AA meetings</p><p>Stay on antidepressants</p><p>Attend family counselling with me</p><p>Respectful conversations - no blaming me for his life.</p><p></p><p>I have tried to be supportive but also maintain my boundaries. We've talked alot about boundaries and what I need to do to maintain my sanity and health.</p><p>At this point his only other option is back to homeless shelter. His legal case is still ongoing so he can't come back here until that is settled as well.</p><p></p><p>Thoughts?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="FallingIn, post: 759746, member: 26369"] Thank you for all the great advice. I know I am part of the problem, enabling and such. So here I am enabling once again. He finally contacted me again and admitted he can't make it on his own without us. His sisters still have him blocked on their phones, so he is only in contact with me. When he was discharged from hospital, he went to COVID hotel to finish his isolation. From there he spent a few days at my house until I found him an Airbnb. He's been there and although very lonely (no friends, no job, etc), he's been doing ok. He also has no money so can't by liquor. But Airbnb is expensive. So I am considering paying for one more month. If he doesn't find housing by then, I am thinking of letting him back home with following conditions: Absolutely no drinking. Attend AA meetings Stay on antidepressants Attend family counselling with me Respectful conversations - no blaming me for his life. I have tried to be supportive but also maintain my boundaries. We've talked alot about boundaries and what I need to do to maintain my sanity and health. At this point his only other option is back to homeless shelter. His legal case is still ongoing so he can't come back here until that is settled as well. Thoughts? [/QUOTE]
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