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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 454677" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>being that the child is older, i would step back and let the mother take the reigns on her own child. you can't just step in and become the father figure with a teenager, they won't take to that. you can be a 'friend' to the child by being there to guide them and making yourself easy to talk to. mom is going to have to set the rules and enforce them at least until the child has accepted you as a parental figure which may or may not even happen. secondly, i'd like to say that as someone who is a stay at home mom i would be increadibly offended if my other half decided that i was not allowed to buy my kid cereal or whatever they needed on a tight budget or not. i certainly would put up an opposition to him telling my what i may or may not buy in any aspect. i don't blame your girlfriend for being upset. once you live together and are in a serious relationship your money becomes her money and vice versa. i get needing to put the breaks on the spending if she's out buying new shoes all the time or collecting handbags, but i don't think it's appropriate to tell her she can't buy cereal especially if the kid is still hungry in the morning. teenagers are notoriously hungry beasts and need to be kept well fed or they won't be able to even try to behave. the boy probably is against you coming in and taking control of his and his mothers lives(as he would see it) and telling them what they can and can't do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 454677, member: 11339"] being that the child is older, i would step back and let the mother take the reigns on her own child. you can't just step in and become the father figure with a teenager, they won't take to that. you can be a 'friend' to the child by being there to guide them and making yourself easy to talk to. mom is going to have to set the rules and enforce them at least until the child has accepted you as a parental figure which may or may not even happen. secondly, i'd like to say that as someone who is a stay at home mom i would be increadibly offended if my other half decided that i was not allowed to buy my kid cereal or whatever they needed on a tight budget or not. i certainly would put up an opposition to him telling my what i may or may not buy in any aspect. i don't blame your girlfriend for being upset. once you live together and are in a serious relationship your money becomes her money and vice versa. i get needing to put the breaks on the spending if she's out buying new shoes all the time or collecting handbags, but i don't think it's appropriate to tell her she can't buy cereal especially if the kid is still hungry in the morning. teenagers are notoriously hungry beasts and need to be kept well fed or they won't be able to even try to behave. the boy probably is against you coming in and taking control of his and his mothers lives(as he would see it) and telling them what they can and can't do. [/QUOTE]
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