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I need strength to stop enabling and get my drug addicted son some help
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 536092" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I dont normally post much on this forum but something about your post really struck me. I feel so very badly for you because you seem to feel you are at the mercy of your son's drug use. Its almost like you are literally stuck living your live for your son. Someone once said a family is as only as well as their sickest family member. I do think that is really true in your case, and you son is forcing you to live this nightmare. </p><p></p><p>You havent done a profile so we dont know if you have a husband or other kids in the home. If so, what do they feel about this revolving door? Does your son have any mental illnesses he has been diagnosed with as a child or adult? </p><p></p><p>I honestly wonder if your son realizes at some level that he is manipulating you to a degree as in, mom kicked me out so I will just show her how bad it can really get. Ha. Then she will take me back! She will see, she will have to, she wont let me die out here. I know she wont, she is my mother. Of course that plays on your guilt and it works.</p><p></p><p>In the true sense, the real answer is to say that as long as he has the comforts of your home, any money he gets he can just use for drugs and we all know that. He isnt going to stop using until he wants to. That is just something that is true. It is true for anything. Drugs, cigarettes, overeating, anything thing that is a vice. You simply cant stop until you want to and nobody can force you or make you. It has to be that person's decision. My personal choice would be to attempt to find a rehab if you have the insurance but if you dont then he has to go. You cant have him effecting your life this way. He will find a way to live or not. If he gets picked up by the cops but so many times they will eventually hold him for longer and then he will have a place to stay and at least he will get detoxed for a time. They do have drug programs in prison if he can get sent to one of them. I know that isnt what a parent wants but sometimes that is the best choice. </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 536092, member: 1514"] I dont normally post much on this forum but something about your post really struck me. I feel so very badly for you because you seem to feel you are at the mercy of your son's drug use. Its almost like you are literally stuck living your live for your son. Someone once said a family is as only as well as their sickest family member. I do think that is really true in your case, and you son is forcing you to live this nightmare. You havent done a profile so we dont know if you have a husband or other kids in the home. If so, what do they feel about this revolving door? Does your son have any mental illnesses he has been diagnosed with as a child or adult? I honestly wonder if your son realizes at some level that he is manipulating you to a degree as in, mom kicked me out so I will just show her how bad it can really get. Ha. Then she will take me back! She will see, she will have to, she wont let me die out here. I know she wont, she is my mother. Of course that plays on your guilt and it works. In the true sense, the real answer is to say that as long as he has the comforts of your home, any money he gets he can just use for drugs and we all know that. He isnt going to stop using until he wants to. That is just something that is true. It is true for anything. Drugs, cigarettes, overeating, anything thing that is a vice. You simply cant stop until you want to and nobody can force you or make you. It has to be that person's decision. My personal choice would be to attempt to find a rehab if you have the insurance but if you dont then he has to go. You cant have him effecting your life this way. He will find a way to live or not. If he gets picked up by the cops but so many times they will eventually hold him for longer and then he will have a place to stay and at least he will get detoxed for a time. They do have drug programs in prison if he can get sent to one of them. I know that isnt what a parent wants but sometimes that is the best choice. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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