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I need strength to stop enabling and kick my drug addicted son out
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 526128" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Hello and welcome to the CD community. </p><p></p><p>Your son needs to suffer the consequences of drug use. He will not suffer those consequences if you continue to let him live at home with no conditions. Many of us have had to reach the point of kicking out our adult drug-addicted child and let them fall. In many cases, they hit bottom and then were willing to seek drug treatment.</p><p></p><p>I would love to say that they all got better but that is not the truth. Many, mine included, seem to be on a vicious cycle of relapse and recovery. However, it is safe to say that your son will definitely not get better the way things are now.</p><p></p><p>It is also not unusual for the parents to be in different places concerning the best path to take to help their child. My husband and I took turns with detachment and enabling. We still struggle with that. I have found an addiction counselor for us that I hope will be able to help us with that.</p><p></p><p>We understand what you are going through and will offer support and advice. There is no one right answer for any of us or our substance abusing loved one. Just remember this:</p><p></p><p>You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. </p><p></p><p>We call that the three C's. That gave me comfort when I first heard it. Keep posting!</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 526128, member: 1967"] Hello and welcome to the CD community. Your son needs to suffer the consequences of drug use. He will not suffer those consequences if you continue to let him live at home with no conditions. Many of us have had to reach the point of kicking out our adult drug-addicted child and let them fall. In many cases, they hit bottom and then were willing to seek drug treatment. I would love to say that they all got better but that is not the truth. Many, mine included, seem to be on a vicious cycle of relapse and recovery. However, it is safe to say that your son will definitely not get better the way things are now. It is also not unusual for the parents to be in different places concerning the best path to take to help their child. My husband and I took turns with detachment and enabling. We still struggle with that. I have found an addiction counselor for us that I hope will be able to help us with that. We understand what you are going through and will offer support and advice. There is no one right answer for any of us or our substance abusing loved one. Just remember this: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. We call that the three C's. That gave me comfort when I first heard it. Keep posting! ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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